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Cake day: June 15th, 2023

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  • This is going to be something that varies wildly from couple to couple, but I can at least speak to my own experience about half a year into our first child.

    There is a period where you are supposed to refrain from sex while the mother recovers. The minimum is 6 weeks, but my wife took a bit longer to feel comfortable again. The baby also makes things more difficult logistically, but we definitely didn’t “suddenly stop having sex”. We have to be more deliberate about planning date nights and intimate time as the previous spontaneousness is rarely doable with the responsibilities of parenthood.

    The only personality change I have seen in my wife is her fierce protectiveness of our son. She is the same person she was before him, the same person I fell in love with (I think she’d say something similar about me). I think this is also largely due to the intentionality with which we approached having a child together. Everything was planned and discussed at length between us and agreed to well before we even started trying.

    Things aren’t all sunshine and rainbows, though. Sleep depravation sucks. There are definitely times when we can get frustrated and a bit short, but we both understand the exhaustion and easily apologize and forgive whenever that happens.

    To answer your last question, there’s no way of knowing, but if you love each other and both are in agreement I think the odds of it working out are good.








  • The only current think close to ranked choice voting in the state that I’m aware of is in St. Louis City where a few positions are elected based on a double run off where the top two candidates of the first election have a subsequent run off.

    I read an article a little bit back where the politician championing it was quoted saying “it’s too confusing” and that is the primary reason it needs to be banned in the state constitution. So that’s the kind of people trying to push this through.

    What I believe they really want is to clamp down on any chance of local municipalities trying to use an alternative voting system to first past the post. Those in power would be threatened by people having more choice.