You can be nice and shit. I don’t think the two are mutually exclusive.
Counterpoint: you’re too shit at tricking people. They are not being fooled and believe you are actually nice because you are.
shit
Yeah, I’m so nice and great and fun, yet nobody wants to actually be around me. Actions speak louder than words. I don’t think I’m shit, but I do think people are two faced.
Life as an introvert, with introverted friends.
So you are nice and great fun but people don’t want to be around you? Are you also great at self-reflection?
“Great” is such a strong word. Let’s just say that I’m in a constant state of self-improvement. And as long as people make an attempt at being respectful, I try to take constructive criticism for what it is meant to be. Of course, there is a wee bit of bias in those two statements, so I’ll leave it to the community at large to call bullshit if it’s needed. 😊
Everyone should be in a state of self-improvement. But sometimes you do need to take a step back and realize that you are orders of magnitude harder on yourself than anyone (that you would want to be around) will be.
You said your friends and family think you’re fun and enjoy being around you. Do you think your friends and family are actually shitty people just stringing you along for the fun of it? Do you trust them in other aspects?
I was talking to a friend about this one time and he cut me off and just said “that’s hurtful man. Why would you say that about me?” and that really gave me some insight. Because I was telling myself “my friends are all fake”, but what my friends here is “i dont believe you are there for me”.
lazy and selfish. i’m a pet project. people have to do so much work to appease me, and I never think of them until years later “oops I should have said thank you” I’m garbage, I should —
too real and I hope it gets better
The explanation? I am an incredibly powerful trickster goddess. Same with my impostor syndrome.
Me: you’re just saying that because you’re supposed to. I don’t see most of you but twice a year! You just don’t know I’m shit!
I looked through the infinite time lines before I was born and it turned out the absolute most harm I could inflict upon humanity is if I am the nicest possible person in this lifetime, I have no memory of my pre-birth but I am compelled in all things to be as nice as possible, and because of that I have came to loathe every waking moment of my existence.
If you aren’t a nazi, or some other types of bigot, you are already better than half of the population on Earth.
I actually got in trouble at work once because the manager believed I was being nice to people to trick them into liking me by making them think I was a good person when, according to him, I actually wasn’t. I had to sit there in a meeting and explain to him that being nice to people you like and with whom you want a good relationship is normal human social interaction.
Fake it tll you make it.
