Yeah, I suspected that, due to her pigheadedness. Doubling down is a trauma response. And it makes me angry, because it’s continuing the cycle of abuse. Turning on an entire group of people because you have never adequately addressed your trauma is wrong.
Like, my earliest introduction to a male guardian included him emotionally, financially, and then physically abusing me. I wasn’t even an adult, I was a minor. But I understand it’s not okay to demonize all men because of that. You take people on a case by case basis.
I also understand quite clearly that men don’t NEED to put on a skirt to gain access to women to abuse. In fact, being trans punts you right to the bottom of the social pole, and puts you in danger. Identifying as trans to gain access to women is socially stupid and NOT NEEDED to gain access to victims. It’s already very easy for an abuser to abuse without taking the social hit of being trans. How do we know this? ::gestures at 100s of years of history where abusers abused without changing social status to do it::
Also, on the JKR front…the fact that I can get over my trauma–which honestly is much worse than hers and started younger if we’re playing Oppression Olympics–while living in poverty while she rolls in money is like…what the fuck. WHY. Why is she rolling in the mud and the mold and the hate and spite? WHY?
I could do SO MUCH to improve myself and my health if I had her resources…and she just takes what she has and rolls in mud and hurts others…I mean, why don’t more people act like Dolly Parton when they get rich? We need more Dolly Partons and less J. K. Rowlings.
I mean, why don’t more people act like Dolly Parton when they get rich?
I often wonder this same thing. I wouldn’t want nineteen cars and a ginormous house. I know that nothing I could buy would be as emotionally fulfilling as helping others.
Yeah, I suspected that, due to her pigheadedness. Doubling down is a trauma response. And it makes me angry, because it’s continuing the cycle of abuse. Turning on an entire group of people because you have never adequately addressed your trauma is wrong.
Like, my earliest introduction to a male guardian included him emotionally, financially, and then physically abusing me. I wasn’t even an adult, I was a minor. But I understand it’s not okay to demonize all men because of that. You take people on a case by case basis.
I also understand quite clearly that men don’t NEED to put on a skirt to gain access to women to abuse. In fact, being trans punts you right to the bottom of the social pole, and puts you in danger. Identifying as trans to gain access to women is socially stupid and NOT NEEDED to gain access to victims. It’s already very easy for an abuser to abuse without taking the social hit of being trans. How do we know this? ::gestures at 100s of years of history where abusers abused without changing social status to do it::
Also, on the JKR front…the fact that I can get over my trauma–which honestly is much worse than hers and started younger if we’re playing Oppression Olympics–while living in poverty while she rolls in money is like…what the fuck. WHY. Why is she rolling in the mud and the mold and the hate and spite? WHY?
I could do SO MUCH to improve myself and my health if I had her resources…and she just takes what she has and rolls in mud and hurts others…I mean, why don’t more people act like Dolly Parton when they get rich? We need more Dolly Partons and less J. K. Rowlings.
Yeah, I guess I’m grumpy on the internet again.
I often wonder this same thing. I wouldn’t want nineteen cars and a ginormous house. I know that nothing I could buy would be as emotionally fulfilling as helping others.
People who feel like this rarely end up super rich