Remember my dad spilling strong acid ruining the living room which I later found out was intended for my mom.
To this day I can’t help but cringe when people equate middle eastern issues to western issues. This shit is not even the same planet - the whole region is like a century behind at least despite all the money and development and is fundamentally a failed culture.
I’m sorry you experienced that moose, it’s rough. Would you mind explaining how it’s a failed culture?
Thanks it sucked but we made through and the world is all that brighter now!
As for my view on middle-east culture - it might appear like I’m being mean or reductionist with this view but since Quran is literal “word of god” and not interpreted text like in every other religion it has developed this culture that is incapable of growth or nuance since the very base layer is unquestionable obedience. It’s a fundamentally broken world model that cannot be redeemed without an absolute revolution that has to come from within the community but you can probably clearly see the catch 22 here that makes it not possible. Thus a failed culture with no clear path to growth.
That makes perfect sense thanks for explaining! How come it’s not interpretatable surely that’s debatable?
Because it’s believed to be “literal word of god” revealed to Muhammad by an angel word-by-word. Since Allah is perfect and all knowing his word is considered to be flawless and eternal and not open to interpretation or doubt. The theological argument is that imperfect human reasoning will lead to misguidance and thus corrupt the religion so only literal interpretation is acceptable.
So it’s like a constitution that cannot be amended but it’s from over 2 millennia ago when most people didn’t even know how to read or write. It’s a dead end.
Ahhhhh I see thanks for explaining
what ultimately happened with your dad? is your mom ok
Mom and I left and she’s doing well now but no idea about dad or anyone from that side of family. Though, I’ve heard that karma caught up with everyone eventually.
My mom ran into one of the dads friends who arranged the acid a few years back and it turns out he got almost fully blinded in an accident of his own and flipped his personality 180° and started doing charity work. It kinda goes against this pop culture idea of bullies being fixed by “understanding and love” when in reality it’s usually a catastrophe like this that really sorts them.
i started realizing more and more that my father’s jokes were racist. then i started noticing that his normal speech and interactions were racist.
i was brought up with this racism as a norm, so it took me a long time to realize we were a racist family (longer than i would like to admit).
then after a realizing how racist we were, i put two and two together… my father is a police officer.
Bro that twist. Hahaha
A twist would be something unexpected
Bruh…
Post 9/11 and watching Fox News constantly. I realized most people aren’t good people because they followed into fascism far too easily.
Ugh that was such a wild slide and if you said anything you were treated like the dumbest person on earth who wanted “the terrorists to win” - trying to explain to people the patriot act was in fact not patriotic or even good for us was the first time I really realized how tuned out everyone was and how desperate they were to be told how to think
I saw two of my friends joking with their father and realised they weren’t afraid of him.
My mum’s abusive. I learnt early on that just because someone is a religious leader that doesn’t make them a good person. My dad was always the better of the two, I thought he was okay, but now he’s older I’ve heard him express opinions I can’t agree with, support for political ideals that are questionable at best. I’m not sure how I feel about it all.
When I was in college and everyone was talking about where they grew up, and I realized I only remembered bits and pieces of growing up, and those were always when my parents weren’t around. Some online searching later and a talk with a therapist, and I don’t talk with my parents anymore. It’s better that way.
Mom was a bully and enabler. Dad was a pedo. I learned that having authority does not mean somebody deserves respect before I learned how to divide.
Decades later, one has died of an aneurysm, and the other’s trying to make amends. Doesn’t matter which is which. I’m just glad they’re out of my life.
When i borrowed my mom’s car long ago and the radio was on Rush Limbaugh
They use minor slurs against minorities and are obsessed with fox news…and now are fully brainwashed :(
When my best friend started crying hysterically and begging to sleep over at our place because she knew she’d be severely beaten at home that night (for losing a hat at school that day). Not only was she not allowed to sleep over, but I was told off for asking. They did nothing about the abuse she told us about.
If I hadn’t known then I’d have known 2 years after when she screamed at me for going out of my way to save a kitten.
It was when they whole heartedly supported Trump. Then they bitched about existence level “DEI” things.
Same. There were other things in the past that I look back on and think “hmm that was not great of a decision”, but yeah Trump support is a dealbreaker. That makes you officially “not a good person.”
Around the time my kids were graduating from highschool, she always made it seem like being a mom was this monumental task that no reasonable person could ever do well, just unbearably difficult so to cope you’d need to scream at and emotionally abuse your children or you’d never survive. There are two modes of mothering, ignoring your child or screaming at your child. My mom kept me fairly isolated and wouldn’t drive me anywhere despite living in along distance to nothing but other houses mostly filled with older couples so I never really got to see how “normal” families work or how other kids interacted with their parents, if I ever did manage to get an invite to a new friends house or an after school activity was forbidden from participating. Raising kids though, wow, such an incredible eye opener to just how easy kids are to love, how easy it is to raise children when you’re a sane and consistent parent. Motherhood isn’t inherently a screaming match between you and a child who never asked to be there that you hate because of their mere existence. Sure not everyone is cut out to be a mom, of course, but to present abuse as both normal and justified is evil. I don’t care how bad she had it as a kid, she was obligated to protect me from that just like I was obligated to protect my kids from the things she did to me. She was an early childhood education teacher and I’ve come to realize it’s because anyone over the age of ~4 is too much of a human being for her to handle, she only wants completely subservient, physically small children around because she can dominate them and any other social interaction that she’s not dominating the other person is intolerable to her. She’s a pathetic person truly
When I got to know my gf’s mom and realized I didn’t have massive levels of stress and anxiety around her like I do with my mom.
Father was a systematically abusive pig.
Mother allowed it to happen for far too long.
I cut contact after finding out the latter was on the mailing list for the Nazi Regime of America. (Republicans, Students for ‘Life’ etc.)
Finding the Trump coins while helping her move. She’s asking me for money after sending hers to a racist conman.
That, and teaching my young daughter the N-word.
