By also being their best friend

One more post and I’ll call the cops!

Are you the woman from earlier who cheated on her boyfriend and is now getting back together with him because he bought a nice new house and got a promotion? If not, I apologize.

If you don’t know the answer then you don’t love him and are wasting his time.

Internet advice can only get you so far.

Being the best for that guy will be different for others.

But in general, communicate, never expect him to read your mind. Dropping hints and mind games generally end badly, guys are pretty much oblivious to that stuff. Men can begin to loath anniversary and birthdays because of shit like “I left the picture of the model wearing this sunhat on the fridge hopping you get me one, I didn’t want the ugly sundress!!!” just ask for the hat.

Appreciate him, and make sure he knows it. Seriously, saying thank you goes a long way. Even if something’s not exactly how you’d planned, if an effort was made, acknowledge it without the “but you should have…” or fixing it right after. Either show them the first time or the the next time, but never right after. Imagine struggling to fold sheets for an hour and immediately getting told they’re too bunched up or they don’t fit perfectly in the closet - you’ll never want to do them again.

Never go to bed angry at each other. Disagreements are natural, the key is both of you should feel like winners at the end of it. Sometimes you’ll get your way, and sometimes he’ll get his way, and that’s okay.

You’re two individuals, presumably attracted to each other as you are now, if you become “one person” that’s boring. Adapting to each others life style is expected, but you shouldn’t fundamentally change. Never lose who you are.

I don’t know you or your situation at all so specific advice is difficult to give but since you asked I will share a few things.

1. Don’t make him feel bad about having a life outside of your relationship.

This can be tricky as any relationship should entail a fair amount of time spent with your partner but I know far too many men who feel like their SO starts a fight with them anytime they want to hang out with their friends or even do something alone. Obviously they shouldn’t be regularly canceling plans with you to do these things but assuming there is a reasonable amount of joint activity going on you should be supportive of and even encouraging him to go do stuff without you from time to time. Occasional time apart is good for everyone.

2. Express yourself clearly and out loud.

One of the most common complaints I hear from men in relationships with women is that they feel like they get in trouble for things that they didn’t know were important to their partners. Men are not generally as in tune with the subtle side of communication. You may think you communicated indirectly but very clearly but often times the signals get missed. If you find yourself frustrated with something he’s done or not done ask yourself if you actually said out loud what you wanted or expected to happen. If not, try to tell him calmly and directly what you want and see what happens before you get upset with him.

3. Find something he likes or enjoys and do it for / with him regularly.

This is a simple way to ensure your partner knows you care about them. It doesn’t really matter what the thing is. It could be cooking a meal, playing a game together, something sexual, going to the park, etc. Find at least one thing that gives him joy and make that thing happen consistently. Once a week seems like a reasonable frequency to shoot for but that’s heavily dependent on the specific context.

Clearly this is not an exhaustive list but I think anyone who has a partner that thinks about ways to improve their life / relationship in a similar fashion to the suggestions above is going to have a pretty solid foundation to build on. At their core, those suggestions are about trust, communication, and appreciation. Those are some of the most important aspects of any relationship. If you can find a way to let your partner know that you value those things you’ll be in good shape.

I know it may sound cliche but, just being kind, honest, and actually listening goes a long way. The best isnt about being perfect. Its about showing up, caring, and trying. That being said, breaks usually happen for a reason. It might help to think about what you both need going forward.

Homecooked meals, stimulating conversation, don’t diss on his music

Genuine enthusiasm. If you’re only doing things to make someone else happy, it’s hollow and pointless.

Good communication skills, loyalty, blowjobs, intelligence, that sort of thing.

Keep his stomach full, testicle empty, and mind entertained.

Sex. And lots of it. Preferably with your BF.

No red flags here. Looks good.

The answer here is obviously blowjobs, right?