my bf of almost three months (we’ve been friends for about a year or two) is always feeling stressed, depressed, or empty. i want to help him, so im just there with him and remind him that i’m there even when he doesn’t feel like talking or we don’t have much to say.

due to his feelings, he also doesn’t know what he wants, and while he loves me, he doesn’t know if he wants to talk to me and be around me or not. it makes me really sad, he’s also had a bad childhood. i wanna be there for him but he also doesn’t know what he wants and i feel sad thinking about and worrying about how sad he is.

he’s been reading my messages and not replying or being offline more than usual.

  • deegeese@sopuli.xyzEnglish
    3·
    24 hours ago

    You can’t fix other people.

    You can offer him resources and referral to medication or therapy, but if he refuses to talk about it or take steps to improve, he won’t.

      • OsrsNeedsF2P@lemmy.mlEnglish
        2·
        9 hours ago

        he just says he doesn’t know when i ask how to help

        Yea. Because he doesn’t know.

        It’s significantly harder to propose a solution than a problem. It’s also significantly harder to execute a solution than propose one.

        I think there’s a lot of good advice in this thread. Pick one that resonates with you and execute on it. Remember, you don’t find the perfect partner. You build them. All you gotta do is find someone that can be built.