my bf of almost three months (we’ve been friends for about a year or two) is always feeling stressed, depressed, or empty. i want to help him, so im just there with him and remind him that i’m there even when he doesn’t feel like talking or we don’t have much to say.

due to his feelings, he also doesn’t know what he wants, and while he loves me, he doesn’t know if he wants to talk to me and be around me or not. it makes me really sad, he’s also had a bad childhood. i wanna be there for him but he also doesn’t know what he wants and i feel sad thinking about and worrying about how sad he is.

he’s been reading my messages and not replying or being offline more than usual.

  • Angry_Autist (he/him)@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    23 hours ago

    This is a temporary time, it will pass

    You can help him by sincerely just being there for him and little things like help him clean up or get him some light snacks.

    Don’t expect him to make good decisions under depression, it clouds the mind, and he will have a lot of wrong conclusions

    stroke his hair, make him the small spoon, binge his favorite netflix and don’t make demands if you can help it.

    Let him know you don’t really know what to do and just want to be there for him. Make it clear he is not being an imposition, or rather that you are willing to put up with it because of your feelings for him.

    Source: Am chronically depressed, the above has helped me. You’d be surprised how perspective changing an unexpected box of cookies and hot chocolate can be to one deep in the pits