my bf of almost three months (we’ve been friends for about a year or two) is always feeling stressed, depressed, or empty. i want to help him, so im just there with him and remind him that i’m there even when he doesn’t feel like talking or we don’t have much to say.
due to his feelings, he also doesn’t know what he wants, and while he loves me, he doesn’t know if he wants to talk to me and be around me or not. it makes me really sad, he’s also had a bad childhood. i wanna be there for him but he also doesn’t know what he wants and i feel sad thinking about and worrying about how sad he is.
he’s been reading my messages and not replying or being offline more than usual.
Sounds like you’re doing everything you should do just by being there for him and lending an ear. You cannot be responsible for dragging the man to happiness and supporting him on your own - We each have a responsibility to do that ourselves. I think the bigger question is whether you can be happy with your boyfriend if this is just who he is. There’s no right or wrong answer to that.