I’ve been a single mom for a few years now after getting out of an abusive relationship with my 12 year old son’s biological father. I’m 27 now (Yes I had him at 15), I work 2 jobs, and I take care of my son. Even working 2 jobs, I’m still barely getting by, and sometimes I feel like a terrible mother since I can’t give my child the perfect life he deserves. On top of that, I always come home exhausted from work, and once I’m done making dinner for my kid, I feel beat. It’s like I have no time for myself, or even to just sit down and breathe. I have gotten some support from my parents when it comes to babysitting here and there. Financially I feel stuck, because I couldn’t get a college degree since I was taking care of my son at the time. I haven’t had much luck when it comes to applying to better paying jobs. Dating also feels impossible as a single mom, and I really don’t want to settle when it comes to finding a stepdad for my son. I’m just so exhausted.
Edit: Thank you all for the positivity/advice :)
Your son chose you as a mother, and you’re doing an amazing job. If you date it’s for you, not to find a stepdad for your son. You are both whole and complete at this moment. It will get easier soon as your son becomes a man. Maybe he will get a job to help out (and give you time for yourself).
My mom had kids as a teenager too, and she didn’t really get time for hobbies until all us kids were moved out. No big deal she has plenty of time for hobbies now.
Enjoy yourself, with your son, now. Drag him on outdoor adventures. Try new things.