I really don’t know what’s going on with me. I was laid off rather suddenly and unexpectedly. I spent the next 5 months looking for a job. I spent the day searching for jobs and networking and applying, then taking weekends off. Additionally, I’m already diagnosed with anxiety and take meds. It’s semi controlled.

I’ve had a job for 3 months now. (So it’s 8 months since I was laid off.) I’m completely drained by the time I get home and NOTHING is fun. I’ve quit all my hobbies. I want tot WANT my hobbies, but I just don’t. I want to just lay down and do nothing. I think I should be back to where I was before the layoff. My previous jobs never drained me this much. This job isn’t that far off from my last job.

Can it take months to get over being laid off or could there be something else going on?

  • Mediocre_Bard@lemmy.world
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    3 days ago

    Brother, it sounds like you are depressed. Maybe it’s job related, maybe it’s not. A few things to do are:

    1. Talk to your medication provider about these symptoms and consider medication specifically for depression.
    2. Talk Therapy. Pills are good, talk therapy is approximately ::checks notes:: 10,000 times better. 2.1. Find a therapist that is a good fit. I’ve had good therapists over the years, and I have had bad therapists. My current therapist is amazing and a the reason why I didn’t die by suicide in January.
    3. Don’t ‘should yourself’. Avoid using that word to describe anything, ever. You don’t have to do or enjoy anything right now, and you can’t feel bad for suffering from (probably) depression. It’s a mental illness. You didn’t do anything wrong and you are certainly not to blame.
    • GrayBackgroundMusic@lemmy.zipOP
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      2 days ago

      1. I have meds for depression, amusingly. They’re the same for anxiety.

      2. I used to see a therapist but haven’t in a while. Been thinking about going again.

      3. I think “should” is OK in moderation. I don’t use it to judge myself per se, but to ask if I’m off base or something.

    • hunnybubny@discuss.tchncs.de
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      3 days ago

      Therapy and meds. At some point you need both. One to change chemistry in the brain (meds) to properly rewire your brain (therapy).

      High stress mixed with some thought loops is doing exactly the same. It changes chemistry from baseline and rewires your brain. Often for worse.

      Regarding #3. Consider this. You break your hand. Would you be questioning yourself over using the other hand for daily tasks? You break your foot. “I should be walking faster” is doing what good in that moment?