Honestly, I always felt the same way when I was younger. People would just meet up and fuck, like a fun thing, and I was never that into it. I thought something was wrong with me that I didn’t get it, until I started spending time with girls I had a real-life connection with, and then it was magic.
Pop culture lied to me. The club is bullshit. Casual sex is an awkward wasteland. Props if you’re into it I guess, but somehow young adult America turned it into the default, when it’s not the way.
I’ve known people who’ve wondered if they were asexual because of this, then later realized that pop culture isn’t real life.
Thing is, there is not a “way”. Some people enjoy casual sex, some yearns for a deeper connection, some don’t like sex at all. It varies depending on people, sexual preferences, mood, age, etc.
I don’t like the “they lied to me” mentality. Brother, they didn’t lie, it’s just not for you right now, and maybe never. You just need to find your way.
Capitalism turned it into default by turning dating into a catalogue you could surf from your couch instead of building meaningful connections with people.
In the name of profit
Dude has that Abrahamic guilt conditioning.
Not necessarily. Sex, even casual sex, can complicate or completely destroy a relationship. If I had drunken casual sex with a coworker I’d have regrets.
The existence of casual sex implies the existence of ranked competitive sex.
Jokes aside some people need an emotional connection to have sex. Many do not.
There is in fact ranked competitive sex:
I’m assuming anon is young, cuz if I was young and single again, I’d tap that shit multiple times, hot asian milfs need love too!
Yeah, he’ll be yearning for a second chance at that someday, no doubt.
Fake and gay as hell. No anon ever gets laid.
That out of the way, this is the kind of thing I wish I could tell folks about when they haven’t run into it before.
Sex is great. Even casual sex can be great. But sometimes, casual sex is just masturbating with someone else’s genitals instead of your hand.
When you go into it drinking and aren’t even working off of mutual sexual interest, that sometimes becomes much more likely.
But holy fuck, sex isn’t something that is magic in and of itself. Hooking up is usually the opposite of magic. If you don’t go into it with the right frame of mind, you might as well buy a dildo or fleshlight
Anon has sex with a woman, immediately regrets it.
Never change 4Chan.
I only have ranked competitive sex.
I aim to always win
Maybe you could go for the silver and come second this time
The fuck is causal sex.
It’s like picrel apparently.
