• Juniper (she/her) 🫐@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    7 months ago

    A big reason that drove me was that I have a micropenis.

    Fake. There are no “reasons to drive someone” other than their internal gender, this sounds like something a cis person someone who thinks being trans is a choice would say.

    Edit: For clarity, I’m not speculating on whether or not the OP in the post is trans or cis, I’m saying it doesn’t sound like a real story because it sounds inauthentic to the trans experience. A trans person could easily think this up, like anyone can make up a story that is close to their experiences, but since it isn’t real it doesn’t really pass scrutiny.

    • Ptsf@lemmy.world
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      7 months ago

      That’s such reddit logic. You assume everyone has a perfect understanding of themselves, but people have a lot of different things internally that drive them and they’re not always aware of it. When I was young I was interested in other men, and frankly, quite disgusted by it. It’s the habitat I was raised in and if you’d asked me back then, I’d have told you it was because I was a sinner. The real reason as I came to discover was indeed that I’m just gay. It took a lot of steps and discovery to get there. I’m not saying this is real, I’m just pointing out that just because your logic is correct does not mean that this person if they are real has made enough discoveries about themselves to be strictly logical.

    • somtwo@lemmy.world
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      7 months ago

      Wait, are you saying people would lie on 4chan???

      But seriously, yeah, people don’t seem to realize that people tend to want to pick the path of least resistance. If someone really is trans I have to believe it’s because who they are is so at odds with the expectations of society.

      Edit: added a qualification because I am not trans

      • Juniper (she/her) 🫐@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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        7 months ago

        Exactly. Coming to terms with being trans, when trans people have been seen as nothing but the butt of far too many jokes in damn near all exposure most of us had growing up, is a difficult process rife with cognitive dissonance and defense mechanisms. No one wants to be trans, they just want to be their gender and have to be trans to get that.

  • southsamurai@sh.itjust.works
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    7 months ago

    Did the dad never change any diapers?

    Micropenis is almost always evident from birth. Always afaik, but I’m leaving room for edge cases I’ve never heard of.

    So you’d have to be a pretty hands off dad not to see it, even if it somehow wasn’t noticed or reported to the parents by the doctors involved.

    Edit: also, obviously fake and gay, forgot where I was for a second and was pretending it was real for discussion/entertainment sake.

    • naeap@sopuli.xyz
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      7 months ago

      I’m 40 and would have no idea how big penis of a toddler should be - and with all growth hormone stuff happening, I wouldn’t feel comfortable at judging at this age (besides that it is mostly irrelevant in long term relationships)

      Also, my personal penis, so to speak, can be very minor, but as a grower I needed to step up my confidence, when being naked - but of curse instead of an actual micro penis, mine seems to be just shy and needs some encouraging words or kisses.
      So maybe I can’t relate.

      Still I think this idea is idiotic

    • Default_Defect@midwest.socialEnglish
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      7 months ago

      I can’t imagine most first time parents innately know what a baby’s penis is supposed to look like, is it really that obvious?

      • southsamurai@sh.itjust.works
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        7 months ago

        Yeah, it’s pretty obvious.

        It tends to happen the most with other atypicalities, but even when it doesn’t, it just doesn’t look right. Humans have certain proportions, ratios, and we can usually tell when someone is off by a fairly small margin. Genitals are no different in that regard.

        You might not immediately think “micropenis”, but you’d be able to tell things weren’t normative.

        Now, it might be pretty easy to shove that aside and assume it would grow later on, and they do. They just don’t grow to normative proportions, they stay micro, just not the same size as they start.

        • somethingsnappy@lemmy.world
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          7 months ago

          Just another anecdote, but I have 2 boys. I can’t tell if one has a micropenis and the other has a macropenis. One looks smaller than proportional, but not “micro?” One looks, well, otherwise. They are both huge kids otherwise… Maybe they are both near other sides of average, but I’m not spending time trying to figure that out.

    • BastingChemina@slrpnk.net
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      7 months ago

      A study from the 80s showed that around 45% of fathers NEVER changed a diaper.

      Things changed today but I would not be surprised if the dad never changed a diaper.

      • JasonDJ@lemmy.zip
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        7 months ago

        39 year old dad here. Being proud of not changing diapers was my dad’s generation for sure. I’ve certainly changed plenty, and I can’t think of any peers who haven’t.