Can I just pay someone with real event planning and social skills to just include me in whatever they’re doing? It would be way better for my mental health than therapy.
Edit: not even just for me personally either. Like as a community thing. I pay my portion and the person planning all this uses it to rent a space and pay for catering or whatever and keeps a list of all of us and tries to get us all out of the house.
My brother in Christ, that is just a club! You pay dues to belong and everyone elects the few most organized and functional people to plan events that everyone can enjoy. You can even kick it up a notch and make it a civil organization so that you’re accomplishing good works while hanging out with likeminded people. Society used to be full of such organizations, and it’s time we brought them back.
They would still have to go to the club though, and generate the interest / intent by themselves.
I think the service provided should be more like a PA: they call you Friday at 5pm, ask what you’re doing, suggest a couple of activities, and once there, actually make an effort to introduce you to people, suggest common activities, take care of the first hour of awkward conversation so people can get to know each other etc.
$5 says this already exists in Japan.
I think what may be implied by OPs comment:
The other members of the club will harass you to come to events. Your dues are your indirect way of paying for your social event harassment (ha!).
As a friend of a club member, I often don’t want to go but am cajoled, and then I’m glad I went. It’s awesome. Highly recommend.