I agree, and what makes it even WORSE is that it’s silent trauma. You may never even know you have it until you look back at all those failed relationships.
It’s teaching wilful ignorance as an instinct, IMO. Kinda like how these same kinda parents probably also suppress all information related to drugs and pretend like they don’t exist or it’s taboo to discuss.
Leads to some very ill-informed decisions when the child encounters these things IRL. As the military says, proper prior planning prevents piss-poor performance.
Being 11 years old thinking I’m going to burn in hell for all eternity because I masturbated was rough
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In a college aged church service some years ago, the pastor specifically called out people “struggling “ with porn and masturbation and said they should go to the back to get prayer. My friend immediately went. I myself felt shock and shame. It took several more years before I realized that guilt is a tool the church uses to hook people. It’s insidious.
I dunno about that.
I’m an only child. By age 10, nobody had ever explained that activity to me, so I had no idea what sex even was.
I had no brothers or sisters to explain it to me, and since I had also never seen a baby before, it never crossed my mind to ask where they came from.
I accidentally walked in on my parents going at it one night. The room was dark, all I could barely see was my dad’s naked butt moving around, and I heard my mom moaning.
Keep in mind, like I said, I didn’t know what sex even was yet. I assumed my dad was beating my mom. I had no idea that what they were doing was actually an act of pleasure.
I almost went to the living room to grab the baseball bat to go protect my mom. Instead I just went back to my room and slammed the door as hard as I could.
So, yeah, wanna talk about what’s more traumatic? At age 10, I almost went to get a baseball bat to beat my dad’s head in, because I thought he was beating my mom.
It really does help to understand what’s going on, like what the hell do you really expect a dumb kid to think when they hear mom moaning and see dad thrusting?
You’ve combined the two things together and said they are worse than one on its own. Duh.
The original poster is talking about the vast majority of kids today who do in fact get a decent sex education and if they see/hear their parents going at it, the ‘trauma’ is in seeing them in an unexpected context, not thinking Dad is beating mom.
I didn’t combine two things. One thing led to the other.
I heard mom moaning, so I was concerned. So that’s how I reacted, to go check on her. For lack of knowledge, what I saw led me to believe she was getting beaten.
The only reason I didn’t go back in with a bat was because my dad was naked, which utterly confused me since I also thought it was abuse.
I’m 42 now and have long since learned the facts of life and all. But what I’ve also learned is that you can never assume that anyone out there got a ‘decent’ sex education when they were young, if any education whatsoever.
How is hearing parents have sex is traumatic jfc
At best is fucking annoying that housing unit is that shit that kids have to hear it.
That’s the real issue.
Idiot parents who don’t provide sex education at home are fucking child abusers.
I am tired of pretending that’s their need for sky daddy is acceptable excuse to be abusers… Still in 2025
After we know what the Catholic churhc rapes children for sport.
Read my other comment.
I heard my parents going at it and thought my dad was beating my mom. He almost got a baseball bat to his head.
Yeah, when you don’t know what they’re actually doing, hearing them have sex can sound like dad beating mom, and I almost went to defend my mom.
For an ignorant child, hearing that activity can indeed be traumatic enough to make a kid want to defend their mom…
Sounds like you were a victim of child abuse if that’s your reaction tbh
Nope. Child neglect, they neglected to teach me such things. Parents, school, friends, neighbors, all neglected to explain anything to me.
Hell, they didn’t even teach me that girls had different parts. I almost got expelled from school at age 7 because I walked into the wrong restroom. The school treated me like I was a pervert, when actually I was completely ignorant and innocent.
Bro where were you going to school that they were gonna expel you just for going into the wrong restroom as a SEVEN year old? I seriously doubt so much of this convo
I have no reason to lie, the school treated me like shit because I was an awkward kid, they thought I did it on purpose.
They also treated me like shit for failing their eye exam at age 7, which turned out to be the entire reason I was so awkward.
You know that big E on the top of the chart? Yeah, when they asked me to read the vision chart, I literally asked them “What chart, where?”
Rather than treat the situation seriously and inform my parents I was effectively blind and needed to get glasses ASAP, they accused me of ‘acting out’ because according to them I refused to read the chart.
Like fucking hell, I couldn’t even see the damn chart!
Yes, having 20/400 vision absolutely sucks!
I think you should reread that part about sex ed…
Yes, I read that part.
Years later I had a good talk with my parents to respectfully ask them why they never explained those things to me.
Their answer? They were waiting for me to ask them where babies came from.
By age 10, I had never even seen a baby before, so the question never crossed my mind.
Walking in on them, however… I thought they were fighting each other at first. Still less traumatic, though.
Alright, need some kids on here who grew up hearing sex please to tell me how it did or didn’t fuck them up…. Anyone?
Cuz um we might have had some thin walls
You might be interested to read Sybil by Schreiber.
I feel like it had almost no effect on my life.
So I heard my grandparents having sex when I was around 11-12. They got divorced before I was born and my grandfather married his secretary. They, my grandfather and his secretary, then got divorced about a year later. My grandfather had tons of other ladies around him other times but this time it was my grandmother.
Meh, 4 out 10, wouldn’t want to hear it again.
