I don’t know. That’s my honest answer. But I’m sure he won’t blame me if I did, he’s a pragmatist. I have. I’m amicable with everybody. He has 2 sons: born in 69 and 71 (I’m 97). We’re distant cause they find it weird. On the other hand I’m close with his grandkids cause we’re around the same age.

Back when I came here there were still checks and balances in place.

He fulfills my emotional and sexual needs, so I don’t feel the need to look elsewhere. I don’t feel in danger, but can you really even know these days?

He takes care of me financially and I take care of him emotionally, sexually, physically, etc. Depends on how you define love. I care about him and we’re close, but I don’t feel “in love” with him if that makes sense. It’s transactional but with feelings developed over time I guess.

Nope.

It’s English 99% of the time between us. I use Tagalog often with my family and friends back home in the Philippines.

I speak Tagalog, English and Spanish. He speaks English, Spanish and a bit of Tagalog (starting learning after we met).

Hot tub, sauna, travel, pool, fish (I don’t fish, I sunbathe while he fishes), picnics outdoors, hiking, watching stuff on the TV in bed, etc. yes.

19. Came to the US in 2019 on a fiancé visa, got married, did adjustment of status & got my green card.

Sure.

Yes, even though our relationship is fundamentally transactional I like him.

He wasn’t 78 when we married but still a good question. It was transactional. He knows it, I know it. We’re both on the same page and happy with it.

By American standards not very rich but the US dollar goes a long way in the Philippines.

We met at a resort I was working at in Boracay in 2016. I wouldn’t say we necessarily like the same things, but we show interest in and do together the stuff each of us enjoys.