There is no utility in punishment. Wanting people who wronged you to suffer isn’t a desire for justice, but a desire for revenge. Dangerous people can be stopped from hurting others without locking them in cages or treating them poorly.
I’m over three years and am just now seeing wispy baby hairs showing up in the corners of my hairline. I never really had a receding hairline though, just a more “masculine” shape with square corners. I solved the problem by just taking the plunge and getting bangs. Now I virtually never see or think about my hairline at all.
My favorite fictional universe is The Culture. I think I’m going to be alright lol.
I had no idea about the AvE thing. It’s wild but not totally surprising. I used to be an avid watcher of his content but a couple of years ago I started getting bad vibes from and stopped consuming his content. The dirty jokes started to feel like they were more than just jokes and his sexism wasn’t ironic. I also started to notice him making statements that felt dogwhistley.
For reference I’m a 23 year old trans woman that has been on hrt for 3 years. I usually don’t experience this feeling watching transfem content, but cis women still regularly make me deep envy. If anything trans women are the only women I’m not jealous of lol. The idea that my body wasn’t just like that naturally and I have to extensively modify it to even reach a rough approximation can be really upsetting at times. I will admit that a lot of my envy is caused by not their bodies themselves, but the fact that they get to be that way with zero effort or pusback from society. They don’t have to take meds to look that way, and nobody is trying to stop them from being women.
I live in the US and the threats to take away trans healthcare or make it prohibitively expensive have only exacerbated my envy of cis women. There’s a lot of existential dread surrounding the fact that my femaleness is maintained only by a “benevolent” insurance system where most choose to cover hrt and bottom surgery. They could decide to stop at any point and then I get medically detransitioned. Being cis feels extra privileged at the moment. But yeah, seeing cis women go about their day being happy and beautiful and successful has made me stop consuming certain media and has actually brought me to tears, so I understand the feeling. Seeing cis lesbians in the media is probably the worst for me because I feel some insecurity about being perceived as a “real” lesbian or belonging to that culture.
Replace prisons with compassionate psychiatric hospitals with the purpose of rehabilitating violent criminals who are a danger to the public. People who are not rehabilitatable would still be locked up for the rest of their lives, but they would be treated as humanely as possible. In this case though locking them up wouldn’t be punishment, but rather harm reduction.