I genuinely can’t come up with something worse than the actual news. I see real news stories and think “wow, my anxiety riddled brain has been coming up with ‘worst case scenarios’ for months now, but this? I hadn’t even thought of worrying about that.”

Like I was not expecting to think “Hitler would be a better President.” And for the record, as of a couple months ago I would have said that Hitler was as bad of a leader as any country could possibly have.

But not only is Trump every bit as xenophobic, power hungry, and ‘above the law’ as History’s Worst Person ™ but his administration is also selling off our national forests, dismantling our educational system, and literally defunding the usda and fda.

At least the nazis supported organic farming or whatever. THAT’S NOT A SENTENCE I SHOULD EVER BE ABLE TO SAY. And yet here we are.

The Republican party, ladies and gentlemen. Speedrunning “worst government ever.”

like if I said I was trans or trans-nonbinary people would think I’m transfem

The word “transfem” exists for a reason. No one should be assuming anything about your AGAB based on your expressed identity.

Are you cis? No? Then you’re trans. No one is “more trans” or “less trans” than anyone else.

probably should lead with saying I’m AFAB and Nonbinary, then say I’m trans so no one gets the wrong idea

Um, no? Not if that isn’t how you feel. Don’t let other people tell you who you are or how to describe yourself.

“Transness” is the experience of not aligning with the gender that society placed on you at birth. If you experienced that, if you resonate with the stories of other trans people, if you feel at home in trans spaces - then you’re trans.

And if other people don’t get that, fuck em. It isn’t their call to make. It’s not your job to make other people respect you - it’s your right as a human being to get the same respect everyone else gets. It isn’t something you have to earn.

If you like telling people your AGAB, then please do, but if anyone makes you feel like you have to disclose your AGAB then they’re just transphobic. YOU ARE NOT YOUR AGAB. And I’ll write that on my knuckles and deliver that message for you any day of the week.

You are loved and seen and respected! Don’t let assholes get to you. If you have people in your life who you trust, I would recommend interacting with them to center yourself.

… and if you don’t have those people, there are some great folks here on lemmy. Please let us circle the wagons around you when you need us to.

Unfortunately I can’t live with my parents. I probably won’t have kids, but if I do, I doubt they could afford to live anywhere else. Not unless I leave the US. It’s rough here.

I don’t see why not. If we had public golf courses, free for anyone to use, that were designed to minimize ecological harm, and incorporated other uses for the space (hiking trails, picnic tables, etc.) then I think it might actually be a really good use of land.

Also it’s an easier sell. Instead of telling people to stop doing something they like, you can encourage people to adopt healthier ways of engaging in their hobby.

Everyone hates on golf, but I suspect we could play golf - or at least a very similar sport - on less artifical terrain.

There’s literally a club for playing on sand, you’re telling me you can’t make a golf course out of clover or dandelions or whatever? I call bullshit.

The last name is probably similar to “cha” or maybe “chia”

I know “Xin” is pronounced like “chin”

Gotta look for something frequently requiring novel problem solving and adaption to filter for high probability of high general intelligence.

So, to riff off another commenter - league of legends 😅

Boy is it a toxic and frustrating game but I will give it credit where it’s due, you have to make good tactical decisions in not a lot of time.

I’m sure overwatch et al. work as well.

Some of us do struggle to breathe around vapes though. Not as bad as cigarettes but it’s still a problem

ahfkfhdhdjd;;;

Flirting with me in the comments??? 🫠

I can’t dealt with this kind of public affection lol

Hi 👋👋

I’m a fellow trans girl in a country that’s rapidly becoming dangerously unsafe for me 🙃🇺🇲🙃

I’m not good at being a friend but if you dm me I will reply to you

I’ll take one of each.

…oh, is this not a store?

but to roll over and not enforce the constitution provides functionally no difference than if they had lost a constitutional crisis.

Oh, it makes a very big difference… to them. If they pick a fight with Trump and lose, they go to the gulag. If they appease him, they might not go to the gulag.

The mechanics are the medium through which players relinquish control of their roleplay. They’re sort of what mediates roleplaying, I think, by providing a sort of arbitrary and neutral interface to both limit and move along characters.

Precisely. Which is why it feels different from improv. Rules and predictable-but-random outcomes add verisimilitude to a game.

And the closer something is to the game’s core experience, the more likely it is that a rule (instead of a ruling by the gm) is needed. So if you’re playing a game that revolves around intrigue and seduction, you will probably want some rules for that. They don’t have to be overly complicated, but they will need to exist.

I just figured everyone’s eyes were like that

I don’t know Randall, but I expect he would enjoy this.

Does anything need mechanics? You could just rp everything, after all.

I’m not saying you need something like FATAL, btw, the system I’m referring to is The Sword, the Crown and the Unspeakable Power. It’s a pretty normal PTBA system, plus a handful of moves that let you gain an advantage when you sleep with someone (as you might expect for courtly intrigue in an 18+ setting). There’s also one class that lets you give birth to eldritch abominations, but that’s less of a ‘roll for pregnancy’ thing and more of a dark ritual. It doesn’t have to be done out of a deep yearning for motherhood - that was just the direction I took it because it resonated with me.

It’s not always about horniness, per se. For example, I’m trans, and giving birth is something I’ll always want but probably will never get to experience. So maybe I want to experience a “power fantasy” of sorts where my trans character performs dark rituals to give birth to eldritch abominations, all so she can experience motherhood.

I’m sure there are other experiences that people would want to rp but not necessarily to experience irl. It certainly overlaps with kink, but it’s not like you’re masturbating at the table. You’re telling a story with adult themes, not (necessarily) writing erotica.

I think that what’s happening here is that

1. The vast majority of any <thing> is poorly made, but because there are better alternatives, the poorly made ones rarely see the light of day

And

2. The more specialized or niche something is, the more likely it is to stand out despite being poorly made

This includes racist garbage and weird fetishes, yes, but also any other game whose main selling point is its uniqueness instead of its quality.