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I guess I’m just not reading the literal exact words they wrote, but interpreting what they likely meant was “no one (in the large pool of people I have tried dating) is looking for a meaningful relationship.” It’s like psychoanalzying someone after they got dumped for saying “women are evil” and saying “omg this guy is an incel!” He’s venting about a negative experience, not debating that women are all trash humans. Making generalizations because you’re upset doesn’t make you a bad person or an incel or…

E: also sounds like you’re assuming the worst of some random dude on the internet rather than just seeing him as someone who’s upset or in a bad situation.

If you’ve never run into the situation of living somewhere that everyone seems to only care about themselves I’m glad for you, but that absolutely does happen. I’m a pretty sociable person and moving from 1 city/neighborhood to another, I want nothing to do with “many, many” women around here because they are exactly as he described, there are some cool women too definitely, but the place I used to live had a majority really cool interesting and unique people. If I wasn’t lucky enough to see personally that there are a lot of women who aren’t surface level, I probably would’ve said the same thing as he did. Which is why I said the response I would have is “man that sucks sorry you have to deal with that.”

Just reminding people this handy button exists!

Yeah I think it’s rather women have the same problem dating men, but are much less superficial with other girls

Brutal, yeah I usually skip over people who have those weird qualifiers just out of principle, like yeah maybe this is a negative to you but you’re gonna write off a whole person for that? There are so many amazing people that they’ll never meet just because of some random “dealbreaker.”

“My experience as a man dating has been many many girls are superficial” is in fact bashing many many girls… the ones who are superficial? If a woman said “many many men are superficial” I would say “correct. Sorry you had to deal with people like that.” Not “stop bashing men” when the men they’re talking about are the same people I would complain about!!!

He just implied they were one of the people being complained about, so they got mad and left a mean comment. you’re reading into it too much imo.

Thankfully you are aware enough to write “typically” and know this commenter is an individual person with their own experiences and manner of speaking, so we shouldn’t make assumptions!

Imo that’s just people in general, most have a lot of issues they want to talk through and don’t have people to talk with. After seeing about 9000 online profiles with “pamper me” or “over 6 ft or don’t message” I get the feeling though :>

On the flip side of this, it makes me sad that using fancy words usually just makes you seem pretentious in normal conversations, which has made a lot of cool/interesting words unusable for me. Even words that used to be pretty common, like insipid, will have most people look at you like 🤨