I mean, were you? From scary headlines I see, it is very much for your personal safety to not surprise the wrong person. Sometimes being right is not worth it
Nah, this is super common and well known in trans communities. We get pushed out of tons of spaces just for existing. Lots of dating apps and stuff will just ban you and give wrong reasons or lies, and even if you get the ban reversed, it just happens again, but that time it’ll be perma for avoiding bans or using alternate accounts or something wild.
The blind hate by people is real. People think we complain a lot, and we kind’ve do, but almost always for good reason. Being treated shitty by stupid people everywhere sucks. It’s more than just frustrating, it’s actively oppressive and life changing in constant negative ways. It’s literally the opposite of privilege. Like just imagine having not just low, but negative luck in an RPG.
My dad once said to me “just tone it down” when trying to be supportive of my transition. Like… What the actual f does that even mean? I’m not super fem in public, I just want to mind my own business, for the most part, and be me and hang out with friends and drink coffee and bubble tea and try to get my mind off the burning down of my country. I responded to my dad “what? You want me to tone down being a woman?” And he couldn’t really respond to that because I’m pretty sure he thinks being trans is like waving flags and being a rainbow covered, makeup wearing transvestite queer man in drag. Which is… Deeply, deeply disheartening and frustrating. And before you think “oh just explain to him”, I have, repeatedly - he’s a moderate maga, the moderate flaming-ignoramus type that says he only cares about the economy and is totally unaware, or even belligerently defensive of his social unawareness and privileges of being a middle class, white, decent looking, tall, physically able, boomer cishet man.
Anyway, non-foss social media and stuff are all fucked up, and the vast majority of people are also too ignorant or dumb and stubborn to consider that which is anything past their immediate purview. We just don’t talk about it since we’re also told to shut up by most people. I guess that’s just part of being an oppressed minority (internally screaming).
my profile very clearly said “trans woman” as my gender.
and yes, trans people have to be very careful with dating apps. so do all woman for that matter. but that shouldn’t mean we aren’t allowed to use them.
I got banned from hinge/tinder for the crime of… being trans.
turns out if enough terfs report your profile as “misrepresenting your identity” you’ll just get banned, no questions asked.
I mean, were you? From scary headlines I see, it is very much for your personal safety to not surprise the wrong person. Sometimes being right is not worth it
Nah, this is super common and well known in trans communities. We get pushed out of tons of spaces just for existing. Lots of dating apps and stuff will just ban you and give wrong reasons or lies, and even if you get the ban reversed, it just happens again, but that time it’ll be perma for avoiding bans or using alternate accounts or something wild.
The blind hate by people is real. People think we complain a lot, and we kind’ve do, but almost always for good reason. Being treated shitty by stupid people everywhere sucks. It’s more than just frustrating, it’s actively oppressive and life changing in constant negative ways. It’s literally the opposite of privilege. Like just imagine having not just low, but negative luck in an RPG.
My dad once said to me “just tone it down” when trying to be supportive of my transition. Like… What the actual f does that even mean? I’m not super fem in public, I just want to mind my own business, for the most part, and be me and hang out with friends and drink coffee and bubble tea and try to get my mind off the burning down of my country. I responded to my dad “what? You want me to tone down being a woman?” And he couldn’t really respond to that because I’m pretty sure he thinks being trans is like waving flags and being a rainbow covered, makeup wearing transvestite queer man in drag. Which is… Deeply, deeply disheartening and frustrating. And before you think “oh just explain to him”, I have, repeatedly - he’s a moderate maga, the moderate flaming-ignoramus type that says he only cares about the economy and is totally unaware, or even belligerently defensive of his social unawareness and privileges of being a middle class, white, decent looking, tall, physically able, boomer cishet man.
Anyway, non-foss social media and stuff are all fucked up, and the vast majority of people are also too ignorant or dumb and stubborn to consider that which is anything past their immediate purview. We just don’t talk about it since we’re also told to shut up by most people. I guess that’s just part of being an oppressed minority (internally screaming).
my profile very clearly said “trans woman” as my gender.
and yes, trans people have to be very careful with dating apps. so do all woman for that matter. but that shouldn’t mean we aren’t allowed to use them.
OMG really?! 😔 That is the pits. I’m so sorry that happened to you!