I always feel silly to be such a vanilla romantic. I don’t need much more than a snuggle and a little poop on my chest.
Sure, sure. Catch it, if that’s what you’re in to.
Ah, a Cleveland Steamer afficionado
It’s the simple pleasures.
Not a foot fetishist, eh?
But you did post a Sonic meme… sideyes
When I think fetishistic Sonic content, I think inflation and not feet.
People so ready to kink shame feet. Just wait some shawty gonna open your mind one day
It’s jealousy dog. Attractive women don’t go letting everybody see their boobs and butt for no reason. Is a trip to a public pool just like an unyielding, diamond hard erection for you people?
Had a friend who was a freak ass like that actually
People’s dicks really are putting in overtime
A foot fetish sort of works its way into your brain over time. The synapses for feet and sexual attraction are extremely close to each other, so when you do things like, hold someone’s feet during sex, or give them a foot rub during foreplay, there’s a chance your brain may start making that connection that feet are an erotic thing. For me, it started after being married for a few years, and she just sort of flexed her toes during sex in such a way that it gave me goosebumps, in a good way. Granted I’d been giving her foot rubs for a few years by that point…but oh…my god. When it clicked that it was a turn on for me, it was a game changer.
See, guys who find it weird only do cuz their own feet are nasty, n let’s be real men’s feet are pretty nasty. You ain’t trynna look at no man’s asscheeks, but I don’t hear no1 saying liking women with a fat arse is weird.
let’s be real men’s feet are pretty nasty
Yo, check out ballerina feet.
Nice try. We’re not checking anyone’s feet out bro
When I was born, god gave me a choice.
I said, “I’ll take the Autism, please.”
I couldn’t decide between 'tism and ADHD, god got frustrated of me and gave a bit of both. I wish I had known foot fetish was a choice (didn’t read through the list, obviously).
was too ADHD to read the list 😔
“I am a man that’s made of meat, While you’re on the internet, looking at feet”
“I’m subscribed to your mom’s OnlyFans
I spent five bucks a month to get pictures of her flappy giblets”
It’s awesome though
🦶
(i am asexual)
It feels like a blessing almost always.
When it doesnt is when someone wants nothing more than to fuck you and you’re like neat. Want to cuddle after I get you off? Because this dick ain’t budging lmfao
I don’t mean to offend you, but do you still feel non-sexual attraction towards a particular or both genders?
There’s a spectrum of Ace. I got one am a heteroromantic ace, and I’m a dude. So I am attracted to women romantically, but don’t want to sleep with them.
It’s a very frustrating combination that makes dating difficult.
So very true. People always think there’s something wrong with you.
If you dont mind me asking, is it all sex or specific kinds?
Ive found this is also me to a degree. Enjoy performing things for the partner, but anything done to me does nothing including PiV.
Difficult to find discourse involving this so Apologies if this is prying lmao
Cuddling and massages are pretty much where it ends with me. I was in a relationship for a while, but it didn’t work out timing-wiss with careers and locations. We still keep in touch and hang out a few times a year though.
Nice thing about an Ace breakup is there’s less sexual baggage attached to becoming friends again.
I find the wide variety of ace experiences super interesting. For my part, I’m bi and also demisexual (and I have been working hard at practicing not ace-erasing myself).
An example of the interesting variety I mean is how libido and attraction aren’t necessarily coupled, and also that even besides those factors, there’s a spectrum of ace attitudes towards sex. I had a friend who had a high libido, but was also quite sex-repulsed. That is to say that she masturbated plenty, but had no inclination towards sex. This caused some tension when she entered into a romantic relationship with an allosexual woman who had some difficulty understanding an ace person being both sex repulsed and high libido (though tbf, my friend was learning how to navigate the line between enjoyable cuddles and unpleasantly sexual stuff. She also tried to fit into the model of aceness similar to what you describe, but she found that her discomfort with sex was such that it made her feel less close to her partner (in contrast to how our sex-ambivalent ace friends had described their experiences).
Not OP, but typically asexual is perceived as not having any sexual attraction/having minimal sexual attraction to anyone, regardless of gender. It’s like the opposite of pansexual (attraction to anyone regardless of gender).
Everything is a spectrum of course, which is why people talk about the graysexual area, where you have some attraction but there’s extra things that make it not the “typical” experience of allosexuals (those who experience sexual attraction). Things like Demisexual (attraction only after having a close bond), Aegosexual (having sexual arousal and fantasies, but you don’t think of yourself in those fantasies), etc. These are all microlables to help people narrow down how they feel.
So if you have a distinct and noticeable sexual attraction to one gender, you probably are allosexual (straight, lesbian, gay, etc.). Note, however, that romantic ≠ sexual, and you can be asexual but only date men, or be asexual and date both men and women.
personally, it’s kinda hard to say? i have felt romantic attraction exactly once in my life, so i know i’m not fully aromantic, but also it’s only happened once so i’m probably on the aro spectrum somewhere
but yes, there are many people who are asexual but who still feel romantic attraction to others
(and of course, not all attraction is sexual or romantic, there is also aesthetic attraction for example (literally just when you find people pretty), which i do feel, my meme was pretty reductive all things considered, but then again it’s just a meme)
So I know with a rather high degree of certainty I’m ace, but I continue to have trouble untangling aromanticism from my aversion to people and mild paranoia.
honestly I’m just glad I don’t have a shit fetish
So many possibilities just flushed down the toilet…
Oh well. There they go. A shame I guess.
Anyway.
Eemmmmm fungi
Fella haven’t seen pretty feet yet.
As a non-foot guy, I’m curious what you think would turn me
But sonic has SO MUCH foot to be attracted to.
Ah well, at least you still have sonic inflation.
Yeah I’m grateful I’m just into normal things like pain
we like the pain
we like the pain
Look at this graph! 📈
I became interested in why foot fetishes occur recently.
Basically, it’s the same reason why breasts are considered sexual (they aren’t); it’s all about novelty. If we lived in a nudist colony, neither feet, nor breasts would be considered sexy.
Feet get covered by shoes, making them more novel.
Tribal cultures dont regarded breasts, or feet, as sexy.
Though it begs the question: if nudity became normalized, then what would be novel?
People would find personalities, voices, power dynamics, and fantasies more or less erotic than they are now (for most people).
Breasts are sexual. They’re secondary sex characteristics.
So is thick back hair
Hey, some people love body hair, so you’re not disproving much.
Yes, but I’m talking about arousal. The distinction between the adjective and verb of ‘sex’ is important lol.
That’s interesting
…that’s not what secondary sex characteristic means. As the article you linked says, that just means physical characteristics unrelated to the reproductive system that differ between the sexes. Some of the other examples given include the Adam’s apple in men and longer arms relative to height in women. While some of these things can be sexually attractive or related to sexual attractiveness in some way, certainly we don’t societally put them in the same sexual category as women’s breasts.
Ooo baby look at that apple BOB–yeah drain that cup, waterboy
Breasts are larger than they need to be, and they’re that size all the time. One hypothesis is that they’re used to signal sexual maturity and attract mates.
But aside from that, breasts and nipples are definitely a bigger erogenous zone than most parts of the body, probably second only to genitals. And they’re directly involved in reproduction as you need them to feed babies.
And most importantly, most societies view them as sexual even if some don’t. So what makes something sexual anyway? That’s a subjective thing, it works by consensus.
Right. Breasts serve a function related to reproduction - feeding children. But breast size is largely decoupled from a given breast’s ability to feed children. So why do some women have needlessly big breasts? Because breasts are an example of human sexual dimorphism, and so emphasizing them increases sexual fitness since potential mates’ brains will think “boobs = female = horny. More boobs = more female = more horny.”
Not everyone’s nipples are sensitive FYI.
yeah that’s how being an organic being works, some people will always differ from the norm, that doesn’t really… mean anything?
It’s not abnormal. It’s just a type of person.
I get a lil triggered when we start talking about people and then start gesturing to this average/normal platonic homunculus as if they represent humanity, especially in the context of using biological “truths” to justify/explain social phenomena.
It means they exist (see trans rights). Though yes, it doesn’t really speak to what a society must accept as sexualized that something simply exists in counter to the norm.
To think such silly things is equivalent to religious people trying to protect their kids from “catching the gay” or becoming a lesbian simply because they met one. Just because it exists doesn’t mean it has to become a norm for everyone, and just because it exists doesn’t suddenly redefine the norm. Such braindead thoughts show up in far too many places. (like the previous comment)
And some people are asexual, doesn’t mean that most people aren’t.
It’s not even that unusual. But I was talking about actual people, not most people.
Just pointing out for the young people in the audience – some people will get nothing out of nipple play, but sadly put on a show anyway. Best to check.
Dressed people ofc!
This doesn’t work.
If it were only about novelty, then why aren’t there more bellybutton fetishes?
Being a fetish-having person, I can tell you there there is more than just an attraction to the object of your desire. It is a primal, deep, uncontrollable NEED to see or touch the object.
I am not a foot fetishist, so I do not presume to know the intimate details of what they like, but I can promise you, it has nothing to do with novelty. Fetishes have so many variants also; there are foot fetishes, sock fetishes, feet squishing stuff, toenail paint things, some want a footjob, some want to lick them or suck on toes, some people like big feet, small feet, the list goes on and on.
Maybe read just a tiny bit? https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_fetishism#Cause
Welll for one, giving your partner a foot massage usually ends up in them feeling better. Nobody does that with belly buttons.
Though it begs the question: if nudity became normalized, then what would be novel?
Not an sexologist or even a sexy anthropologist, but my intuition is that aesthetic attraction would always be a factor (since it doesn’t rely on sexual attraction), and that acting in a sexually provocative would be the way to provoke the horny gaze.
It might be nice to have less sexualization of people just be virtue of their existing in a sexualized body. That’s the dream, anyway.
I would phrase that near-last sentiment, “…in a sexy body.” instead. No one should be oggled simply for being sexy, but if they are sexualizing themselves, (like dressing up for a night club) I’d argue that can indicate a desire to be oggled. They still should not be objectified, but when someone is trying to look sexy, I bet most people would be disappointed to get zero glances.
We’re on thin ice here, because some people conflate dressing sexily with looking cool more than wanting to be desired sexually, but in general I agree with your edit.
Yea, that’s why I said nightclub, where social interaction and maybe sexyness is generally a significant part.
If someone simply looks sexy in their work uniform… yea, not the best time unless there are other clues. lol
It raises or prompts that question.
I beg your pardon?
Even the researchers behind the study say, “I want to stress this finding is not final.” That should tell you something.
The sample size is small and limited to a single cultural group. Meanwhile, we’ve got plenty of anthropological evidence showing that in many societies where breasts are regularly exposed, they’re not treated as sexually arousing. So no, this study doesn’t magically override decades of cross-cultural data.
That said, the idea that breasts signal health or fertility? Sure, obviously. Just like wide hips, clear skin, or symmetrical faces. But biological relevance doesn’t automatically make something a fetish object. We don’t jerk off to white blood cell counts.
And yeah, obesity isn’t typically seen as attractive because it signals potential health risks (dont cross post this on tumblr).
The study is interesting, but it doesn’t prove breasts are inherently sexual. It just adds a datapoint to a complex picture where biology and culture play roles.
Meanwhile, we have numerous examples of cultures where tits hang loose on the daily, and aren’t seen as inherently arousing.
Source? Not to say you’re lying, I’d just like to read more about it
The Aka and Ngandu (Central African Republic)
The Himba (Namibia)
The Trobriand Islanders (Papua New Guinea)
The Nuba (Sudan)
It’s why obese people aren’t considered attractive
If you look up the definition of what is considered “obese” for your height, I think you’d find this is largely false.
…what are you talking about?
Women, mostly
why breasts are considered sexual (they aren’t)
Breasts and feet are both sensitive and responsive to touch. If you’ve ever Netflix-and-Chilled, a foot rub is a classic opening move. Meanwhile, teasing someone’s nipple is very normal foreplay.
You’re not picking up what I’m laying down.
I’m not arguing that feet and breasts aren’t capable of providing sexual stimulation from a first person perspective. I’m saying that from a third person perspective, theres nothing about them which inherently arousing; that arousal stems from novelty.
I’m saying that from a third person perspective, theres nothing about them which inherently arousing
There seems to be ample evidence to the contrary. Whole pornographic industries exist to cater to people aroused by pictures of people in various states of undress.
You’re still not getting it. The key word here is ‘inherently’.
The sexual interest in people of different states of undress, or specific attire, is just another form of novelty, and influenced by culture.
The key word here is ‘inherently’.
Name something that is inherently sexy.
You’re asking the wrong question. The point isn’t to name something “inherently sexy”, the point is that nothing is.
“Sexy” isn’t an objective property of an object or body part; it’s a subjective response rooted in psychology, biology, and culture. Trying to find something “inherently sexy” is like trying to find something inherently funny or inherently sad. it only makes sense in relation to the observer’s mind.
Feet, breasts, lingerie, whatever… they’re all loaded with associative meaning, shaped by exposure, taboo, and novelty. The fact that entire industries exist around them doesn’t prove inherent arousal; it proves market demand for culturally conditioned preferences.
If breasts were inherently sexy, then every culture in history would have treated them as such, and that’s just not the case. Look at tribes where breasts are no more sexual than elbows.
Fetish, attraction, arousal… it’s all downstream of context. Nothing’s inherently sexy. That’s the whole damn point.
Feet, breasts, lingerie, whatever… they’re all loaded with associative meaning, shaped by exposure, taboo, and novelty.
One of these things is not like the other.
If breasts were inherently sexy, then every culture in history would have treated them as such
Naked bodies are inherently sexy and every culture in history has treated them as such. The details vary by the presenter, with different individuals and venues paying special attention to this or that attribute. But you’re arguing against the “inherentness” of human attraction to other humans.
That’s not a discussion of artistic (or, I guess, pornographic) merit. It’s merely an expression of an asexual subjective view.
And that’s why you’re stumbling. You don’t seem to want to acknowledge other human bodies as sexy. You’re blinded by your own personal biases and projecting it onto others.
Nothing’s inherently sexy
Humans are inherently sexy. That’s why they have sex with each other.
Me.
Just like mouth, ears and all kind of body parts are capable of providing sexual stimulation without being considered arousing in the sense we still view breasts/ass and such.
Precisely. It’s amazing how people have misinterpreted what I’ve been saying lol.
People get emotional around this topic pretty fast. Don’t take the downvotes personally, i found your statements perfectly rational.
What do tribal cultures regard as sexy?
In many tribal societies, the erotic focus isn’t on specific body parts like breasts or feet; it’s on signs of fertility, health, and social status. things like wide hips, smooth skin, body paint, scarification, or even dance.
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When I fuck people their feet are in my face. I always thought what I was looking at was sexy when fucking, but I agree. Forbidden fruit and all that.
I mean sure, you do you. If everyone wore gloves in a parallel timeline, you’d probably want chin scratches.
nah, i have somewhat of a hand fetish and it has nothing to do with how hidden or not they are, i just think hands are inherently attractive if they look nice and feminine. Also big part of it is how sensitive the fingertips are, touching sensitive parts is just always gonna be nice.
Nudists are weird people and I wouldn’t accept what they have to say about sexuality at face value.
Nudists think people who wear clothes and dont question whether their shame is vindicated are weird. I’m inclined to agree with them lol.
Honestly visiting an onsen was somewhat of an eye opener. I felt pretty comfortable with my body when all these normal dudes were naked and nobody cared about each others bodys.
I’m not surprised since your OP is boilerplate nudist justification and not really any exploration of paraphilia.
I think there’s a mile in between puritanical shame and thinking the body isn’t and shouldn’t be considered sexual and is fit for public consumption. Why is it important to desexualize the human body? What’s the benefit?
My guy we are literally the only creature on the entire planet with a sense of shame who covers our body. If you don’t think there’s benefit to at least understanding why this enormous difference exists, I can’t even begin to fathom what your mind is like
There’s a hell of a lot that separates us from other animals. Throw your smartphone in the trash and go frolic in the woods for the rest of your life if you are so convinced that thousands of years of human socialization is a mistake.
I don’t like being called a deviant…because I like that wearing clothes is the norm? Maybe in return I’d posit that you’re actually a bunch of perverts who enjoy casual sexual encounters, and all this talk about normalization is bullshit?
Show me where I said we should reject all human progress and revert to animals.
No, I simply said we should evaluate the social choices made by humanity, even ones as old as clothing. I’m not saying we should reject it all; I’m saying we should be thoughtful and investigate these things to find out if they hold true or not.
Personally, I think in the case of nudity and shame, we’ll quickly find it doesn’t really hold much water beyond empty religious mumbo-jumbo.
And who exactly is calling you a deviant for liking clothing? Was it not you who came in with the statement, “Nudists are weird people and I wouldn’t accept what they have to say about sexuality at face value,” and now you’re trying to act like you’re just responding to some sort of victimization from nudists of all people after throwing the first punch? Come on, dude.
But I’m sure it all does just come down to religious mumbo-jumbo bullshit for you because you said “perverts who enjoy casual sexual encounters,” as if a healthy casual sexual encounter is somehow a “perversion.”
So, like… grow up and get better opinions, maybe?
I said “weird.” Furries are weird, those people who plaster their cars with bumper stickers are weird. That doesn’t mean that they’re bad or we have to do something about them. “Deviant” probably wasn’t the right word because what you insinuated with
I can’t even begin to fathom what your mind is like
Is much worse.
Hence, I said that last bit to make you mad, not because I actually believed that. Why should I just take your bullshit on the nose and move on?
There is nothing wrong with casual sex. There is something wrong with liking casual sex and simultaneously berating people for being horny or casting unwanted gazes.
Gives people the choice whether they want to be sexualized or no. Like you shouldn’t have to wear a giant form-disguising hoodie just to keep from being ogled.
I suppose I could see that. I’m assuming you’re a woman or female-presenting cause that’s not something I can fully empathize with as a dude. But you do have the choice of dressing how you want to be perceived, no? I’m sure there are other options beyond wearing a trash bag of a top.
