I don’t really dream. It’s extremely rare to the point where I’ll have a handful in a year and I don’t remember them. Waking up with an emotional reaction to an odd dream inspired by life events or entertainment… Then the details slip away from me and I can’t even talk to anyone about the experience.

What’s it like for you?
Do you enjoy, dislike or analyze your dreams?
Is it really a window to the subconscious for you?

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    I have incredibly wild and vivid dreams, a handful of times a year.

    My most recent one is one that has repeated a handful of times. I am in Portland for some reason and there is a restaurant with a large gravel lot.

    I park and I walk up to the restaurant to order a hot dog and Colin Melloy from the Decemberists shows up. His hair is about shoulder length, he’s wearing cut off blue jean shorts and a plaid shirt. And he puts on an open air concert out in the gravel lot for free for everyone who just happens to be stopping by this particular hot dog stand.

    He played songs from the Crane Wife album, which was pretty cool.

    I’ve had other dreams where I’ve led choirs of priests and nuns on a musical rampage throughout New York City, singing a song I’ve never heard before and have not heard since as like this massive musical number.

    I’ve had dreams where I Fight evil villains on spaceships with laser swords only to find out that the villain was my cousin.

    I’ve had dreams where it’s the 80s and I am a white guy that wears white suits and sunglasses and I’m rich and I drive a red sports car that’s a convertible and I have a lot of money and that dream. I told myself, oh yeah, I’ve got to make that big purchase in the morning. I better put $50,000 under my bed so it’ll be there when I wake up. And then I woke up in the real world and immediately looked under my bed to realize that it was a dream and I’ve never been more upset to wake up in my life.

    I’ve had dreams where I’m in a dark room being assaulted by demons, being told all the horrible things that there are about me, and I’m trapped to a chair, and like I’m praying to get out of this situation, and the demon laughs at me, and he flicks his finger, and while I’m stuck to the chair, it lifts up onto one leg and starts spinning around and around faster and faster and faster, trying to get my hands to unclass from prayer as the demon laughs in the darkness.

    And I’ve had a recurring dream throughout most of my life, well two recurring dreams throughout most of my life, one of which is where I’m standing in an infinitely large black room on a small little pedestal, and there is a glowing, blue, thin strand of string that serves as a tightrope between here and the end of infinity, and i become aware that I am supposed to walk this tightrope.

    Somewhere out beyond the darkness are a tribunal of judges who are watching me and watching my performance, as I take one step onto the string, and then I take the second step, and I realize I have to balance, and I immediately fall, and as I’m falling and I’m plummeting through infinite darkness, I hit the ground, and in real life I wake up, and my entire body convulses and bounces on the bed.

    The other one that I have is there is a town, and the town has rolling green fields and sunflowers and wooden fences and white houses and paved roads intersecting through it that wind back and forth and I am driving in an old beat up blue Ford truck with the wooden slats on the truck bed. And, as I drive through the town people stop and wave at me and I wave at them because I am making a delivery and they know me and I know them and I get to drive back and forth in this beautiful, serene, peaceful, perfect town full of happiness.

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    Very often I’ll have a repeat dream, or a dream about a previous dream. Then I lose track of which was the original dream

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    I used to dream better when I was younger and even took control of a few them. Now I’m pretty much like you, it’s rare if I even remember one.

    A couple were probably windows to my subconscious like the nightmares that involved me waking up sure that nukes were about to strike or the ones about tornadoes attacking me.

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    Just last night I had a dream where I was fighting a Russian invasion from my childhood home. Ran out of ammo for my assault rifle and ran to my old room to get the machine gun. Somehow got stuck talking about it with other people and never got back to shooting the invaders. Just weird shit like that.

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      Play a lot of shooting games?

      My rare odd dreams are often related to book or anime I’ve read. When I wake from those I wanna go back in.

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        Actually not at all!

        However, I recently listened an audio book about the Continuation War between Finland and Russia (part of WW2), which might have had an impact.

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    I don’t dream much either, according to sleep studies. Do you have a sleep disorder and/or smoke weed?

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      I’ve had near zero dreams for much longer than I’ve smoked. A few nightmares as a kid, then maybe 3 total dreams until after college. Then weed

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      I don’t do drugs. Even skipping pain meds for a bad back. No real reason I just dislike pills. Drug free for work reasons.

      I tend to sleep 4-5 due to overwork. Even if I have 8-9 hours free my internal clock wakes me up at night.

      The times I dream are often when I take a 30min-2hr nap.

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    There are many kinds of dreams, each with a different sensation.

    • There’s vivid nightmares which leave you in a state of panic, often unable to go back to sleep due to a hyper focus on every little sound and touch.
    • There’s action dreams which give you an adrenaline rush and a state of random anger.
    • There’s emotional dreams which leave you as an empty shell, crying or full of longing for something out of reach.
    • There’s horny dreams which leave a puddle in your bed.
    • And there’s also happy dreams which fill you up with joy and leave you refreshed and full of love for life.

    Of course there’s also the forgotten dreams which can be anything, but don’t really matter to you because you can’t remember having them. But they often leave behind the feeling you’re supposed to be doing something, which can drive you crazy during the day.

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      Also the dreams that feel like distant memories and can sometimes be difficult discerning if they really happened or not

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      I got an emotional dream a few months ago. Woke up feeling a wreck and distraught while having no idea why. Very frustrating.

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        Yeah, I lose a day being on low energy every time it happens. But the subconscious dreams what it wants, regardless of an attempt to influence. We can give a scenario through our activities before going to sleep, but they tend to stretch out on their own even so.

  • What’s it like for you?

    There’s a lot of different degrees of dreaming, and it’s still kind of a mystery to science why exactly we dream like we do.

    At the most basic, it’s usually just something your memory gets rid of immediately, just leaving you with a vague memory of a memory of a sensation, I think you experience those as well.

    And on the other end of the spectrum are dreams, which basically are like being in actual situations, acting and experiencing something as if you are actually there, feeling “real” for the lack of a better word. Those then can range from realistic and mundane to surreal and extraordinary. Most interesting here is, that the surrealness is usually not perceived as such. A remarkable feature of most dreams is, that their internal logic, even where it would make no sense in real life at all, is in-the-moment perceived as just what is natural. (e.g. people appearing and vanishing, places morphing into different places, etc.)

    Then there are lucid dreams, where you “wake up” to the fact, that you are in a dream, and sometimes even get a certain amount of control over the world and situation you are in. I have had those at times in the past with some medication. Including really interesting ones, like with ones where I ended up confronting my grandfather and parents, my brain clearly working through some memories in some way.

    Then there are dreams that feel like movies or video games, with different degrees of being “in” what is happening, feeling more like an observer.

    In general - dreams feel like actual situations, with varying degrees of vividity and control and varying degrees of sensuality (with some, you can hear, see, touch and smell, others just have sight or sound). And they can range from mundane things to fantastical stories. And can range from insightful, to joyful, to genuine horror that doesn’t leave you after waking up for a while.

    Do you enjoy, dislike or analyze your dreams?

    Personally, I enjoy dreams, even when they are full of negative emotions, there is usually something interesting to reflect on. I remember reading a German study recently, that came to the conclusion, that how vivid dreams are and how much you remember is at least partially also influenced by preconceptions about dreaming and “training”. The most obvious, for example, is a dream journal helping with more clearly remembering dreams, as memory usually fades quickly after waking up, so catching the memory and putting it to paper as quickly as possible can help.

    For others, dreams can become more of a nuisance where they keep reliving traumata, without any closure beyond re-traumatisation and exhaustion. For those, too, there is at least some hope in that things under our control seem to be at least a part of the equation of how vivid and well-remembered dreams can be.

    Is it really a window to the subconscious for you?

    I’d say so, but I’d caution to not pay too much heed to “objective” theories of dream interpretation. What is pretty well proven, as far as I know, is that dreaming plays some part in memory, and that it is fed by memories. But how exactly that can be a reflection of the unconscious mind is, in my opinion, so heavily subjective, that answers like “seeing this in a dream means that” at least feel like nonsense to me.

    E.g., when I dream of seeing myself in the mirror with scars and pustules all over my body, that has a meaning that will be related to me, that could completely differ in meaning from the same dream for another person. And not every dream has to be profound there, too. E.g. simple dreams of good food or of sex can be as surface level as they seem. Another example here is a common phenomenon of having dreams of needing to go the the bathroom (which I occasionally have before waking up) - where that is as simple as it seems - very simply reflecting what is happening in the not-yet-awake psyche.

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    The type of dream I enjoy the absolute most are called “lucid dreams.” It’s when you actually recognize you’re dreaming and can take control of it. I could be dreaming of walking down the sidewalk and see a cool car, realize I’m dreaming, and then just say ok I’m going to get in that car and drive it lol

    Unfortunately they’re super super rare so I think I’ve only had like 4 that I remember.

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      It wasn’t until ubiquitous social media that I realized lucid dreams weren’t the norm for everyone else. My default dreams are both lucid and recurring: I have the same fifty-odd dreams over and over and have the freedom to change the ending, rewind, or otherwise alter events. Oh, there’s one-offs too and not every dream is lucid but that’s what I considered a “normal” dream growing up in the previous century.

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        I don’t know how I’d feel about reoccurring dreams, but I’m definitely envious of the constant lucid dreams! Lol

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      I have lucid dreams and I get excited when it happens and make some fun decisions. “Oh, this is a dream. Sweet, I’m gonna go do [X] now.” I always remember don’t try flying, because it was scary when I tried and jolted me out of the dream.

      But here’s the thing. Once I’m awake, as I think about it, it seems like I did exactly what I wanted to do, but I realize that there’s absolutely no way of knowing whether I genuinely had control or just dreamed that I had control and made those choices. But in the end I did have control and made those choices because it’s my brain, right? And I feel like I did; it’s more like a memory than a dream. But following the same line, I could question reality.

      Anyway, I’m currently cynical and think nobody actually controls their dreams, they only wake up thinking they did.

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    To answer out of order, I don’t analyze them. I don’t think there’s really any reason to.
    Sometimes it can be a window to the subconscious, but it’s mostly just random things.

    It’s really hard to answer what it’s like. I dream very frequently and quite often vividly. What it’s like varies so much night by night. Lately, for maybe the past three weeks, I’ve been having one nightmare after the next after the next. For me, I tend to enjoy the scarier dreams that deal with “monster movie” plots. Zombies, clowns, ghosts, etc. Those are fun for me because they’re not real irl, so it’s easier to enjoy.

    The problem I’m having right now is that these nightmares are too real and too targeted. “Nobody likes you” or bleeding out or being alone or getting cancer. Just all the horrible things my brain can do to make me wake up miserable, I guess.

    When I’m stressed, I have a set of reoccurring themes that makes it easier to identify as a stress dream and therefore not be as effected by the events or emotions in the dream. Themes are: tsunamis, bears, brakes failing, or physical abuse.

    One of the greatest problems I have after dreaming so vividly my whole life, is that I’m terrified that my brain will flip a switch when certain situations arise. For example, I’ve often dreamed about drowning. As in I’m in a pool or lake or ocean and for some reason am unable to get air. So I start panicking and doing anything I can. As I finally can’t take it anymore, I gasp for the air that isn’t there and… Huh. I can breathe water? It takes a bit, but inevitably the dream says look at you, you’ve always been able to breathe water, you just never tried.. So when it comes to the real world, I’m terrified that if there’s a situation where I need to hold my breath for a while underwater, my brain is going to just lean into the many lessons learned and tell me to just breathe and it’ll be fine, because I’ve always been able to breathe water, duh.

    So. None of that probably answers your question. But it’s such an esoteric and personal and varied thing from person to person. Or from week to week within a single person.

    If you do want to dream more, try to keep a little notebook on your nightstand and when you wake up with these dreams you rarely have, write them down. It clues your brain in to start remembering them more and then you will start to truly dream.

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      Sometimes I’m glad I don’t dream considering nightmares and overthinking the meaning of things.

      What I’ll say about not dreaming is life feels more mundane.

      Wake, self care (brush teeth, shower, eat), work, chores, brainrot, sleep.

      I feel like even bad dreams would shake things up more.

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    I’m similar to you, but probably not as bad. I don’t often remember my dreams, or I might wake up with a fragment of a memory in my head: “Oh no! I need to let someone know the cats are playing cards in the oven!” But any of the context is lost. Also, if I don’t immediately focus on that fragment and try to remember more about it, it will disappear from my mind completely.

    Sometimes, I’ll get a big chunk of the story, or multiple fragments that I can chain together to figure out the overall plot of the dream, but that’s only a few times a year, if that.

    I wish I remembered more of them more frequently. I find them very entertaining.

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      Yeah I get fragments too.

      Usually wake up to some pieces of life in a zombie apocalypse… And I was a blacksmith? Making bullets? Farming tools? WTH

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    You sound a lot like me but maybe you are younger. I can’t remember the last dream I could remember but I do recall that I have had neat dreams scary nightmares in my life. Definately had variations on flying and crawling ones and had a reoccuring house break in one as a kid but on average it was like maybe one a year.

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    I’m not sure if I have them and don’t remember them or just don’t have them. Like you, I may get a little something during short naps but next to nothing during longer sleep.

    Related to this, are you able to picture images in your head while awake? There’s a phenomenon called aphantasia that I’ve participated in a couple studies on. I’m somewhere around a 4 or 5 on the picture in the wiki. I recall at least one of the studies exploring the correlation between aphantasia and dreaming.

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    Recently I’ve dreamed of having a lucid dream, so dream me thought he had control of the dream, but I don’t think I did. I remember trying to master flying, but it was difficult, and I was afraid of heights.

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    For those who don’t dream much, I’m curious of your surrounding sleep habits and how much you’ve looked into changing your habits. This could be a big indicator you’re not getting into REM sleep, which is not good.

    Do any of you drink alcohol, take other prescribed substances or unpreacribed?

    Have you tried eating foods rich in magnesium or taking magnesium supplements?

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      I have woken up aware that I dreamt perhaps a half dozen times in my adult life.

      Alcohol: no

      Medicine: no

      Drugs: no

      Never tried loading magnesium.

      Terrible sleep hygiene.

      Comfy bed, dark room.

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        Does that include no coffee/caffeine in afternoon?

        What temperature is your room?

        Do you have a watch or device that passively monitors Heart-rate variability?

        On average what do you eat before bed and how long before sleep?

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          Caffeine addicted. It is a problem.

          Room is low 70s (23C?).

          No device.

          Big dinner at 8, bed at 11 or 12. Sleep quickly if no phone.

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            I am definitely caffeine addicted, too. Best I can manage usually is to taper off the caffeine coffee by noon and transition to green tea, then ginger tea later. Seems to help!

            Temp seems good; that’s about what mine is.

            If possible, consider a big lunch and reduce size of dinner and/or dial it back by an hour. Be extra cautious of deep-fried, high sodium, or high acidic foods (tomato-based sauces like spaghetti or pizza, mayo, etc.).

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      I don’t really dream much but my watch says my REM is fine.

      Cutting out weed after a stint gives me more dreams than usual, but then cuts back to my baseline once in a blue moon after a while.

      Take lots of magnesium, have always been like this. Also have aphantasia though so not much to my dreams to remember.

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        I’m similar expect I don’t take magnesium. I also have aphantasia. I get 8 hours nightly and wake up refreshed. I do drink 1 cup of coffee every morning. Acetaminophen and/or Ibuprofen as needed which isn’t often and usually only for a tension headache. No other drugs. I drink on occasion but no more than 1-3 beers/week and the rare night bourbon. My wife cans all of our veggies that are cannable so we know they’re fresh. We have pigs raised (working on a cow) and we eat pretty clean food (know how it was raised/grown) as much as possible.

        I can’t remember the last time I can remember a dream, it’s been that long. I also have a terrible memory and it takes a a lot of effort to retain events, even something that happened last week, they’re mostly fading memories.

        Good news is that means I’m generally very upbeat most of the time. I do not have bipolar disorder or any other mental issue that I know of. I’m very even keeled, so much so that I find Lemmy’s reactions to things happening in the world to be super amplified and irrational. Sometimes it’s warranted, many it’s simply bad for their mental health.

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    Everyone dreams, FYI. It’s an integral part of sleeping. You just don’t remember it.

    It’s like being awake except more entertaining things are happening. It’s a window to the subconscious in the sense I can tell problems from the day appear in them, but not in a Freudian way where they mean things.