Just bought box wine the other day cuz I knew I had to have a super uncomfortable conversation that could not be avoided and I needed to be anaesthetized for it
It worked and I know in retrospect I really needed it to be that way
Edit/Update: person I had convo with just texted me and apologized for combativeness and I mutually apologized for not dealing with it sooner and we’re along and on to solution mode. The system works, please dont drink if you dont have too but dont forbid yourself from using a tool to improve your situation and try to always be honest. The less you lie or hide, the less influence you will have to unnecessarily drink
Everyone high roading you here is probably on anti-anxiety meds lol
I know everyone in here’s saying no but I do. If I’m going to a social occasion I might have a drink beforehand; not much, just enough to feel it. I’m not the most comfortable in social situations and a beer can just take the edge off. I don’t get drunk or anything and I’d only do it if there’s going to be alcohol there anyway.
I also drink sometimes to help me sleep. I have ADHD and I struggle to switch my brain off. Sometimes I hit like 2am and if I think I need it I have a bottle of whisky downstairs that I’ll go and have a drink off. Again, just enough to feel it. I have pills and medicine that help me sleep, and they work also, but they leave me feeling groggy the next day. With a little whisky I don’t even feel it the next day and it seems to work just as well. I don’t do it too often, maybe once every 3 or 4 weeks.
I strategically refrain from alcohol or other drug consumption. And my life has improved drastically ever since.
Whatever the reason that you feel you have to abuse drugs as a coping mechanism, it will only make things worse. You will not be able to process your emotions, you will not be able to think clear about what is your best way forward and you will not be able to grow stronger while drugged up.
The fact that you say you “needed to be anesthetized” for an uncomfortable conversation screams that you are either already having a drug abuse problem and that you have issues with your emotional regulation.
I am glad this is working for you, but not everyone has the same caustic relationship with recreational drugs that you do. Alcohol has been around since over 5000 years BC, but somehow you and a great deal of others have gone on this mini “prohibition” movement and have it all figured out. Good for you, but let’s not let this turn into a new movement where “I know better than you” becomes an excuse to tell others how to live their lives. Prohibition in the US started just like this.
PSA to the youngs who see Box of Wine and think QUANTITY.
Box of wine actually stays best longest because the tapped bag doesn’t take in O2 and start to sour. So box wine is usually pretty par for paced domestic drinking and cooking.
I’m sure someone has smashed the box, but they also serve people who are more likely to leave the last glass in the bottle too long.
Bought Box does not mean Drank Box.
Short answer… no. Long answer… Noooooooooooooooooooo
Hmmm, may drink strategically to dodge rules like no self brought alcohol on the festival, or a way to feel the effect good enough before needing to run to the bus.
But to deal with drama? No that I’m taking fully in so I can learn from it if someone similar happens again
I do this every time I go visit my father. His wife is a crazy narcissistic loon and I just cannot fucking stand being around her, so I drink when I’m there because it’s the only way I can tolerate being around her. But my dad drinks with me, so I dunno, our relationship has been so strained and awkward for so long, I think we both do it to ease some of that tension.
I mean, you could call it strategic, or you could call it relying on substances as a crutch to manage your emotions.
I’m not saying that’s always bad, necessarily. There is the school of thought that it’s just a tool, like in your edit. But, it is important to remember it can become a habit.
These days i rarely drink but a glass of wine with some pasta now and again goes down a treat
I do, but the other way as I’m getting old and can’t down them like I used to. Met up with a mate to watch the F1 in the pub garden on a sunny Sunday, just had a couple of halves as I still wanted to try a number of new drops
Though I completely understand using alcohol to loosen up a bit, for numerous social situations. Definitely used it more that way in my younger days, to varying degrees of success
Using alcohol as a method to resolve personal problems can be a very dark path. Please be careful.
I’ve been doing “tipsy chore day” for a while. Do a chore > glass of wine > do another chore > glass of wine… I may as well finish the bottle > do a chore > final glass.
Chores are less boring, and you push through them to get your next glass. Has to be wine though, beer I don’t get a buzz going, and spirits have me incompetent.
Sure, but I was also an alcoholic. Very high functioning, but still at the end 100% dependant on it.
The slope is so treacherously flat, you don’t feel yourself slipping. I still have no idea how I ended up where I did, or for that matter how I ended up actually managing to quit.
I’m sure some people can use liquid courage without it turning into depending on it to do the hard things, then more and more things turning hard and needing a boost to do it, or can wash away work with a drink at the end of the week, without having to wash it away at the end of every day, and then having a quick rinse-and-reset at lunch, and so on… But it’s impossible to know which one you are until it’s too late.
Yes, my strategy is I don’t drink and in turn I don’t get hangovers
Anxiety is necessary sometimes. It’s fine to be anxious and it’s ok to be uncomfortable. You are having trouble managing your anxiety seek a therapist. Alcohol will trick you into thinking it’s a solution. Be careful, this is very similar to how my alcoholism and my fathers started.
