A few weeks ago, after I got out of the shower, my girlfriend and I were joking around about how cold it was. She looked down, laughed, and made a comment about how small I looked. We both thought it was funny in the moment. She asked if she could take a picture — we both have vault apps for stuff like that — and I agreed, as long as she deleted it right after. She did, or so I thought.
Fast forward a week later: we’d just come back from a trip, and she was showing photos to two of her friends. I was sitting across the room when I suddenly saw both girls freeze, then burst out laughing. They looked right at me — and I knew. One of those photos had slipped through. My girlfriend looked horrified, took the phone back, and apologized immediately. Her friends tried to change the subject, but the damage was done.
After they left, she came upstairs crying. I was upset at first, but it was clear she felt terrible. I told her it was okay, even though I was completely humiliated.
It’s been a little while, and I still can’t shake the feeling. I keep replaying that moment in my head — them laughing, looking right at me. I know it wasn’t intentional, but I honestly don’t know how to stop feeling so exposed.
Has anyone else gone through something like this? How do you move on?
I would be shocked if my friend surprised me with a dick pic, especially if she didn’t realize it was on her phone. Sometimes I laugh when I’m shocked (it is a terrible reaction). And it would have nothing to do with what the pic looked like or who it was and everything to do with my friend being kind of a dumb ass. So, I hope it can take the some of edge off of this situation knowing their reaction was probably more towards your girlfriend and less about you.
I appreciate the feedback, but it’s super obvious what they were laughing at. It was an objectively funny looking picture that most people would laugh at (the reason we took the picture). I just need to own that and push through the embarrassment.