A few weeks ago, after I got out of the shower, my girlfriend and I were joking around about how cold it was. She looked down, laughed, and made a comment about how small I looked. We both thought it was funny in the moment. She asked if she could take a picture — we both have vault apps for stuff like that — and I agreed, as long as she deleted it right after. She did, or so I thought.
Fast forward a week later: we’d just come back from a trip, and she was showing photos to two of her friends. I was sitting across the room when I suddenly saw both girls freeze, then burst out laughing. They looked right at me — and I knew. One of those photos had slipped through. My girlfriend looked horrified, took the phone back, and apologized immediately. Her friends tried to change the subject, but the damage was done.
After they left, she came upstairs crying. I was upset at first, but it was clear she felt terrible. I told her it was okay, even though I was completely humiliated.
It’s been a little while, and I still can’t shake the feeling. I keep replaying that moment in my head — them laughing, looking right at me. I know it wasn’t intentional, but I honestly don’t know how to stop feeling so exposed.
Has anyone else gone through something like this? How do you move on?
Idk man. If she said she was going to delete and she didn’t, that’s one thing, but showing it to her friends on top of that? I’d be pissed. Big red flag. Pretty big betrayal of trust. If I were you I would contemplate leaving her unless maybe she’s perfect in every other way. At the very least you need to have a serious talk with her. You say that you told her it was ok but clearly you don’t actually think it is, you need to tell her that it wasn’t ok.