I wanted to move to my grandma’s place (actually only travel there to sleep) because I can’t sleep in my apartment.
The problem is her place is literally disgusting and she gets mad when anyone cleans it.
She literally never vacuums and there’s tons of dust everywhere and moths. It’s been this way since forever. I tried to ask if we could at least vaccuum and she didn’t let me, there’s disgusting stuff caked onto the rugs on the floor idek what it is.
The curtains are also covered in dust. She doesn’t have a washing machine and I asked if I could bring them to my place to wash them and she refused.
She told me I would be sleeping in the bigger bedroom, and also told me I wasn’t allowed to open the windows. Like literally ever.
Now all of a sudden she changed her mind and told me I would be sleeping in my dead great grandma’s room. I told her many times I refuse to sleep on the mattress she died in, it’s literally 100 years old and caved in too.
I told her we could buy her a new mattress and she refuses. It’s so f**** disgusting.
Not only that but she has the audacity to start bossing me around about random crap and telling me what to do. Jesus now I remember why I avoided speaking to her for so long, she’s insufferable to be around
Not to mention that room has a balcony on it too, and my grandma always wakes up at like 6am and enters going back and forth back and forth hanging laundry
She won’t even wash the fucking dishes and pots and cutlery (only wipes them with a rag) and gets ANNOYED and OFFENDED when you ask if you yourself can wash them first. She also gets OFFENDED if I don’t want to eat any of her disgusting food made with extremely suspicious hygiene practices (last time I ate it I had the worst diarrhea of my life for a week).
For some reason that didn’t seem to bother her at all. Instead I am the problem for wanting basic hygiene.
Then she got offended when I brought a small kitchen sponge for myself, because she said she “already has one” it’s some GIANT bath sponge, have of it is missing from overuse, it’s turned BROWN and probably 5 years old
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Sounds like mental illness. You’re going to need to start taking care of yourself by ignoring her objections.
Now I’m curious what is happening at your apartment that could possibly be worse than this.
I’m normally about respecting people’s wishes, but that is so unhealthy I’d be scrubbing everything despite her objections. Or at least overhauling the room you’re stuck in when she’s not looking. Let her yell at you.
Idk I have experienced my mom throwing some of my stuff out without asking (like a toy I had as a kid) and I am still traumatized by it so I don’t want to do that to her
It sounds to me like she’s probably not coping and is becoming defensive because of it. I suggest you reach out to the health services you have access to to see what support she can get.
In the UK her GP would be the best person to talk to or you could reach out to social services.
What type of services? Like a therapist?
I’d think a GP review and maybe some psychological support may be needed. From what you’ve described it sounds like she’s self neglecting which could be an indicator for other health and mental health problems which she could get help for. She might need carers or a cleaner or something. There’s no harm in reaching out for some support.
She refuses to have carers. As you can see she won’t even allow me to clean let alone a random stranger.
She may need psychological help but she definitely won’t agree to that either :/
That’s terrible. Do your other family members know? If not, I might tell the ones who I think are closest to her. Does she live with anyone else?
They do know and they are all pissed about it too but they know there’s nothing they can do about it. Wish I had somewhere else to stay. Wish I had a normal family. Man I am ashamed to be related to these people sometimes
Your grandma is probably a hoarder and needs mental healthcare. As long as this underlying problem isn’t addressed, nothing will get better. Is a hotel really not an option? Trying to reason with your grandma will not lead to any positive result.
Hotels are for rich people
Do you say that because you genuinely cannot afford even a cheap hotel or is that part of some weird childhood conditioning?
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