I’m confused and I don’t know how to ask questions about this topic without sounding like a mouth breather, I’m sorry for my autism: why label yourself at all then if there’s no rigid definition?

Wouldn’t it be easier to have no label rather than a label whose definitions do not fit you? My spouse is pansexual and doesn’t enjoy when people lump pansexuals and bisexuals together. I admittedly don’t understand entirely why and would like to hear from somebody bisexual who has an opposing opinion on that so I can better understand

I mean this with no judgement and much curiosity