I had a crush on a girl (Girl A) before I met my current partner, (now I identify as straight or bi-curious) but she was really good friends with my bully (Girl B).

Ever since freshman year, we were friends, but we slowly drifted apart as she liked Girl B more and me less. A still liked me as a friend, just B more. A was bi but she was actually in love with B, and she was among the only ones B genuinely liked.

A got over B but they were still very close. A became on and off and distant towards me, and treated me differently. She’d go along with B and be an absolute dick and then be nice again.

B spread several rumors about me, and A said they didn’t happen and “forgave” me, but B continued to harass me and be a jerk.

B manipulated me and tried to throw things at me too, including saying I was too disgusting to find love or be sexually harassed because “no one wants an autistic girl”.

A just went along with it even though she was nice sometimes, but was it okay that I cut contact due to her close association with B and her occasional behavior?

  • starelfsc2@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
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    1 day ago

    Would you say they provide value to your life overall? Is it at least interesting to deal with it? Or does it just ruin your day? If its the latter then yeah that’s enough of a reason. If you care enough I would ask them to at least stop acting like what they’re doing is okay, a lot of people just need a kick to realize they’re driving away actual good friends. Otherwise yeah totally fine to just say I don’t want to deal with this anymore.