• abbotsbury@lemmy.world
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      1 month ago

      That’s still degrading to fellators.

      And idk if I’d say it’s a power thing, cocksuckers are the active participant in a blow job, and I’d say the submissive one is the one with their meat between a pair of teeth.

      • KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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        1 month ago

        find me people who suck cock that actually give a fuck about other people calling people cocksuckers and we can talk.

        And idk if I’d say it’s a power thing, cocksuckers are the active participant in a blow job, and I’d say the submissive one is the one with their meat between a pair of teeth.

        nobody is arguing that sucking cock is submissive??? The argument is that being a cocksucker is a submissive thing.

        Or you trolling? Or are you actually serious?

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        its still at the end of the day giving pleasure to another. giving the key word: power thing. its the same atmosphere as bootlicker

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          1 month ago

          Okay but like, in regular penis-in-vagina sex, the man is (theoretically) giving pleasure to the woman while also doing all the work. Is that still power play? Is pussyfucker the same as cocksucker?

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            1 month ago

            pussyfucker isnt an insult ive ever heard but motherfucker is

            cocksucker reminds me of the prison mentality of making someone your bitch so thats where im getting the power play from

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              1 month ago

              Exactly, pussyfucker isn’t an insult because traditionally there was nothing wrong with fucking pussy, but calling someone a cocksucker is implying they’re either gay or a woman

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                why arent you explaining motherfucker then?

                and funny how your mind goes straight to homophobia or misogyny, when there are other interpretations for cocksucker

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                  1 month ago

                  oedipal

                  and funny how your mind goes straight to homophobia or misogyny, when there are other interpretations for cocksucker

                  oh you’re trolling, good day

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                that’s also a fundamentally flawed argument though. Unless you’re like actively raping someone, there’s nothing inherently wrong with fucking a woman. That’s why the implication of cocksucker and motherfucker matter, obviously someone fucks everyones mother, but it’s the implication that people who are “motherfuckers” would fuck your mother just to be a problem.

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                  there’s nothing inherently wrong with fucking a woman

                  Yet it isn’t an insult for some reason, I wonder why?

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            i mean yeah, pussyfucker if you used as an insult would be quite a weird insult to throw, but it would work i suppose.

            Motherfucker is also in the same vein like the other commenter suggested.

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          Being submissive in sex can be expressed in a blowjob, but so can being dominant. Most sexual acts can be either dominant or submissive under the right context. For example a person can forcibly (consensually) throw the other person down, pin them to the floor and start going down on them while not letting them orgasm. Is the person being overpowered and forced to be frustrate by not orgasming the one in power?

          Your understanding of mutual respect and love is unhealthy if you compare going down on someone to bootlicking.

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            im comparing an insult to bootlicking. jesus christ you people really feel like arguing over absolutely nothing

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              I think you are missing the point, which is that “cocksucker” should not be used as an insult because it’s homophobic. Even if you personally identify it as a power dynamic insult, it does not change the fact that it is rooted in homophobia and that the OOP most likely used it without any thought as to its meaning and history but rather it just came to him as a viable insult (internalized homophobia)

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                or maybe i’m just gay and i think cocksucker is a funny insult, but no i must be homophobic, clearly that’s the only option.

                This shits just not that complicated bro, it’s language, doesn’t matter where an insult came from if it’s use is broadly different in modern lexicon. Some fascinating psychoanalysis of random people on the internet.

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          So, if you were to replace ‘cocksucker’ with ‘towelhead’, slut, Yid, or Nig*** would that still just be a power thing?

          Not that it actually makes a difference. This ‘power thing’ you refer to is controlling abuse for self interest. Introducing a predudice is just a way of trying to justify and/or hide the abuse.