Wow, thank you

Oh man, that was really informative! Thanks for the link!

Goddammit 🤦🏼‍♀️😂

I’ve read it before.

This was very instructive. Now you know the rules and so do I

Téir ag feadail!

Wow, that was a real wake up call, thank you!

Really important message worth reminding everyone about every once in a while. A must-click. Good one.

Rehydrate, use the stock, bin the rest

I put them in as is like a pleb :(

I’m not in the “I have time to peel mushrooms” socio economic bracket lol

I wash and slice a sliver off the bottom of the stalk. Mr P doesn’t wash them, only wipes sometimes. Neither of us peel.

I thought the standard was to wipe with a damp paper towel

Chop coarsely and then scrape directly into the bin

NEVER! Life is too short to peel mushrooms (quote from the Two Fat Ladies who collectively are my spirit animal). Only I think the quote refers to stuffing mushrooms which life is also too short for. The most a mushroom gets from me is a wipe with a damp paper towel, and not always that if they look clean.

I peel them if I’m making soup, otherwise no.

I don’t even cut them normally. I just tear them into chunks 🤣

No way!

I first encountered this insane practice in The Bear and to date I maintain: WTF?!

I can’t imagine ever wanting to peel mushrooms, what a tedious task. There’s not mush room left once you’ve peeled them anyway. I imagine most of the flavour and nutrients are probably in the skin or some shit anyway. So, no, I do not peel and never will

BEEEEACH. I went for a beach walk yesterday and it was glorious. The water looked absolutely stunning, but unfortunately we took the car that isn’t prepacked with towels and swimming gear.

Good luck! Hope it’s a great team

Hope it goes well!

Good luck!!

Growing up my parents were busy working trying to make ends meet. There was no holidays, no luxuries, we had the basics. It wasn’t a particularly loving household but they were never cruel or selfish. I have a good relationship with my mum (my dad has passed) now.

I feel for people with manipulative and selfish parents. It’s not the way it should be.

My parents are both dead, and the parenting techniques they employed with me were by today’s standards abusive and illegal. Similar story with Mr P, and his relationship with his parents is an example of how not to conduct familial relations, but only to be expected from such beginnings. As we both get older and time passes, it becomes increasingly evident that Mr P & I are not on the same page with a lot of things, in a way I didn’t ever anticipate could be possible, and are steadily and irrevocably drifting apart.

However, everything is a teaching moment, whether it’s about what to do or what not to. In any family, some will determinedly model appropriate behaviour and “workshop,” explain or discuss when it could’ve been better. Others are more an example of how not to be, and as such are still potentially useful while being far from admirable.

I could waffle in about this stuff for ages, but a pertinent thing I heard years ago went along the lines of, “The best part about being an adult is you get to choose which parts of your parents you get to be. You don’t have to be your parents.” It sounds like you have a more mindful attitude about parenting than previous generations in your family had. You get to build the relationship you want with your kids, we’re not condemned to repeat history. My parenting style could not be more different from my parents, and that’s a very deliberate choice of mine.

I think the specifics of how you raise your kids is less important than whether or not you respect them as individuals that will change, grow and decide their own direction in life. Toxic relationships between parents and children pretty much all boil down to treating the child as if they are subordinate to your own thoughts and feelings. That might be using a child to try to fill gaps in your life (like having children in the expectation that they will provide you with unconditional love), trying to control what they do for work, who they have relationships with etc.

Being responsive to your child’s wants and needs and building a relationship based on that will always work far better than envisaging a relationship you want and trying to fit your child into that vision. The same applies to any relationship really - getting to know each other and working to create a mutually satisfying relationship over time takes both work and openness to knowing each other.

My wife hasn’t spoke with her dad in over 20 years and with her mum for about 6 years now.

We both recognized what our parents did that was wrong (to us at least) and we tried to avoid repeating those mistakes.

We are also on the same page 99% of the time and back each other up.

From day 1 we put our kids first. Not our own parents and their wants, but us and the kids. That’s probably the biggest one.

We don’t care if our parents aren’t happy with something, as long as we and the kids are happy.

Example - wife’s family is big into giant family gatherings (weddings, birthdays, engagements etc). We are not. So we used to skip a lot of them, or leave early.

Received a fair bit of flack from relatives, and we just told them to shove it (politely). If my kid is tired or bored, we leave. Simple.

You won’t because you’re aware of it and motivated to do better. Fucking up is inevitable but good intentions, self reflection, and trying to do better go a very long way

Edit: Unless you do a massive pendulum swing to overcompensate and ruin things a different way. But you know. Common sense

Both OH and I didn’t have the best relationships with our respective parents, for various reasons. I very much wanted to parent differently than they did (although I do catch myself falling into the same patterns at times).

The main thing I have done is worked to be calm and kind and open about things. Also to be there for my kid, and take the time to listen and be interested in what he has to say. No shaming or belittling, stuff like that. I know my parents did the best they could at the time, and of course I loved them, but generational trauma is definitely a thing.

I am non contact with my father.

What did I do differently?

Always listened. Always asked for opinions. Made sure my daughter knew that her needs and wishes are equal to that of the adults. Made sure she knew I was always there and never ever forgot or went back on my word. Made sure she had good sex education. Lots of pocket money so she had freedom to buy anything she needed. Moved to a good area so she had good opportunities.

So many cuddles, so many I Love You’s. No violence or fear.

I did not have kids because of my relationship with my parents. I knew this when I was a kid myself.

My mum often wonders why she has barely a relationship with any of her 5 kids, of which I’m the youngest. However, her eldest is on life support with a couple of days left and she’s already declared that she won’t be going to the funeral because “you don’t know how much she’s hurt me!” (yes, I do, now grow the fuck up)

Similar to dumblederp, I saw what my siblings and I went through and decided that along with the fact that I was born without a maternal bone in my body, I wasn’t going to risk raising kids and turning out like my parents.

Sorry, not the answer, but also an opportunity to trauma dump.

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Oh poor Melba. Hope the test give answers and it’s worth it.

There’s no way to know without feeling them. Both synthetic and natural fibers come in different grades, eg fine wool vs coarse wool. Also what is the knit or weave like, it affects the feel and drape. Just go with the one you like the colour and style of, because that’s the one you’ll get the most enjoyment out of.

for shits I actually built a solar powered grow light (it was on the eastern side of the house and supplemented a hydro cage that had the perfect spot right next to the back door…right up against a wall the house itself shaded). 'twas a fun project

The LED lights used these days are pretty cheap to run, and you can get cheap usb grow light sets with a built in timer. You just don’t want then anywhere you are looking too often, they are often coloured lights which make your vision go funny when you look at them too long.

I mostly use them for raising summer seeds indoors and growing basil over winter. I wouldn’t go overboard in trying to do an indoor setup, but a small system for a few herbs or seedlings is quite affordable these days.